my gf has dumped me yesterday and the reason she says is because there's alot going on with her and she doesn't love me as much as she used she thinks itd be best if she was alone so she can sort herself out cause she thinks that she is dragging me down.
she says she's meant evry word she has said and she still loves me but not as much as she used to she feels its got weaker but i just don't understand how can it suddenly just go weaker i mean 2 weeks ago we were saying how much we loved each other then she went kinda funny and then she wanted us to go on a break because she thought it would do us some good
i mean we've been going out 3 months then suddenly this all happened i just don't know what to do i love her loads but she just doesn't carry on cause itd hurt us both and her heads messed up at the moment but i mean come on how can she give up on us tht easily isnt what we have worth fighting for maybe if she sorted out her stuff first then she saw me or sumthing then she might feel different im gonna suggest this tonight i just hope for best cause i think she's worth fighting for and holding on to and i don't wanna give up without a fight i just can't see myself without her.
rocky_dude23 Thurs 15/05/08 10:20
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Not much you can do if she doesnt want to go out with you you just have to accept that, you could try win her over and buy her gifts etc... but you would be doing that all your life. Relationships arent always hearts and flowers she has to understand that, maybe it just wasnt to be. xx Chin up. x
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Didn't she tell you a few weeks ago she wanted a break? Sorry, honey, but some people tried to tell you back then that it seemed she was trying to let you down gently?
It does get better though, promise x
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but plz someone just explain to me how u can u just suddenly slowly love someone less i mean when i love someone i love someone this is what im havin trouble understanding on is why things have felt different for her and i've asked her and she says she doens't know herself
i just think if she gave us another chance or just hold on lil bit longer to sort herself out she might change her midn ro feel better
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Perhaps it wasnt love, though she may well have thought it was at the time.
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It doesn't sound like she loved you in the same sense you love her, I'm sorry, I know me saying that will hurt you. That doesn't mean she didn't/doesn't care.
I honestly think the best thing you can do is to just back off a bit, leave her to the space she's telling you she needs. If she has a change of heart in the meantime, then great, but if not, then at least you have taken steps to move on from her.
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It just happens. People are changing all the time. Like for example, you're probably still not friends with the people you knew from primary school, right?
This is because as you grow older, you change, and the people around you change, you want different things, need different things. That won't fit in the lives of others.
Maybe your girlfriend thought that she was to young to tie herself down to a long term relationship. Or maybe she knows that it won't work out in the future.
Also, your love for others changes too, you may love them more, maybe less. And slowing they stop loving each other, and you couldn't be in a relationship if you didn't love someone right?
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You cant I dont think she did love you, you wernt togather long to really know and she's just not into you any more. sorry to sound harsh. And if you are the same person where she said she needed a break please take advice here and move on. xx
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aahh i just give up in life but as much as i h8 to say this if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be ill just have to try and move on but then i think to myself no i don't want i want my gf its just stupid
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Give it time. You'll be coming on here loved up with someone else in a few months xx
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Maybe in her eyes the realtionship just went stale, not necessarily through any fault of your own. You'll just have to accept her decision. Time is a healer and you'll draw life experience from this.
Chin up, there's plenty more s*** in the ocean.
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no i won't be coming on here all loved up nxt thats not ncie to say i just need closure i think but my mind and heart won't allow it they're still behind
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Sorry rocky_dude. But I completely agree with 4getmenot.
You're young you'll find someone else very soon.
And you won't give this girl a second thought.
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but yes i will theres 1 girl i fell for ages ago and i still think about her and if i think i can still feel the feeling i had for her
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dont worry dude there is plenty more fish in the sea!!!
just make sure you cut off all your contact with her for at least a month otherwise you will keep dragging up residual feelings every time you call or txt her.
happy hunting ;o)
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why do you need anyone at all. Be happy be yourself for a while, you dont need anyone. x
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hey rocky ,
give her some space , she has made it clear , i dont mean to sound harsh , ease off , dont txt her and let her come back - if at all in her own time
sadly sometimes things just run their course xx
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Rocky. Sometimes you just 'go off' people. I just happens and there's sweet FA you can do about it. None of us is immune from this. Some people 'fall in love' within a day and fall 'out of love' just as fast. I know because I've met one or two - I don't understand that mentality at all (because it's not my way of behaving) but all I know is they are out there and generally they are quite shallow people.
If you start 'fighting' for her, this will just annoy the hell out of her and she will think of you as a pest and/or a tit, try to avoid you and like you even less. Please believe me on that score because I have felt like that on occasions when being pursued by an ex!
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May be if you took the advices from the previous post (when she wanted a break to sort her feelings) you wouldn't be hurt this much, because 90% of advices said that you were dumped, but you opted to not take them.
It happens to everyone, time is goanna heal you, espacially if you you try not to communicate with her, also avoiding seeing her.
Hope you goanna heal soon.
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