jealous husband

[Nayeli]

My husbands friend was over for breakfast. I was already sitting down eating when they walked in, my husband said I'm going to the restroom so I got up and served his friend and sat back down to eat. When he came down he was very upset but didnt say anything. He later said to me jealously why where you eatting with my friend, what did you guys talk about? I said nothing just small talk. He is very upset and I dont know if im wrong with what I did or if its him?

[Cheesefreek]

Of course it's him. Why did he bring his friend for breakfast if you weren't supposed to GIVE him breakfast?! And then were you supposed to ignore him and not speak? I don't think so. Tell your husband to get a grip, and don't apologise - you haven't done anything wrong. Maybe he even thought there was something going on between you anyway, and going to the restroom was a way of testing you both. Well, I take it you weren't sat on his knee nibbling his ear. Your hubby wants reassurance. This you can give him without apologising for nothing.

[Pippa68]

I agree with Cheesefreak.

Your husband may well need reassurance, but he may also be the type who no matter how much reassurance he recieves, it will never be enough.

He should apologise to you!

[stokeace]

if he ever brings him for breakfast again [if i were you id protest if he did] id tell him to serve his friend himself and then id make my excuses and leave till he was gone

[sarnieken]

It always makes me laugh, as a single guy, when guys who have someone seem permanently intent on ruining it by being complete d*cks.

Would he have been as upset if you had rudely not fed his friend?
It is most certainly HIM.
If I'm round my friend's place and they're not there or are getting ready; their partners always offer to make a drink or a snack if its time to eat. It is common courtesy and something that is lacking in society this way; no wonder when that is the result.

Without knowing if there was an underlying problem, ie if there has been an instance of cheating it is difficult to truly comment. I would say though that if he is worried that you are going to be having it away with his friend then he either doesnt bring them round or he makes sure that you aren't alone. He raises the problem, he should solve it.

[knobbynonuts]

Must agree with all you peeps on here there is definantly a bit of the bug eyed green monster going on here YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG AT ALL and I am a bloke also agree with pippa no matter how much you try to reasure some people the more they need it as if you reasure them then they think that they are right, sorry could be going overboard here and that might not be the sittuation here.
I was married to somebody like that but am happily divorced now.
Anyway on a lighter note now to this sittuation it could go back to neandrathall man (caveman) I.E. the big boss caveman who had to eat first and fought of any other caveman who tried to get near his food, then he threw the scraps to his minnions. and lastly mrs caveman and god forbid if any other caveman ate his food in front of mrs cavewoman and his minnions when he was away having a sprinkle on the rocks he would get his club out and do them all.
Of course there is another theory in this the same rules seem to apply to packs of dogs or wolves (and I am not being nasty here just my soh) the leader of the pack always gets the pick of the food and eats first and then lets his pack eat whats left over and if any other hound trys to take the food b4 hes fineshed then he shows them why he is top dog.
Sorry to waffle on but I think you must get my point by now and am not being nasty just tryingtrying (god will have to get rid of this sttttutterrr) to be a little humerous (thought that was agreek yoghurt) about the sittuation.
Right to sum up now Im going down the frigging pub.....
All the best Kev.......

[JanineG]

If it was a one-off happening, speak to hubby - ask him what the issue really is - tell him that you're not going to change (after all, the only thing you did was dish up breakfast to the mate he brought home). Advise him that unless he stops such childish jealousy over something so dumb, you're gonna take my advice and ditch the no-brainer ! If that's what he thinks of you, he clearly has too many issues and life is short!

Good luck.