How do you move on when you break up for reasons non related to your relationship?

[hellymyname]

Today i broke up with the guy ive been seeing for 8 months because of summer. We are both away for the best of two months and wont have much contact during this time and wont see each other. We are both young and its one of the last times to spend with all our friends before we graduate and go off on different paths. We knew this was the agreement from the beginning of our relationship because neither of us wanted to be in a relationship during summer as we just want to be free to have fun etc except now its actually happened and im so upset and i dont know what to do and i dont know how im meant to get over it when i know we both still really like each other. The worst bit is is that everyone is saying we will get back together after summer which makes it even more impossible to move on, someone help me please and tell me what to do! i know im young etc shouldnt be caring i have a wonderful couple of months ahead of me, but he is the first person i have truly cared about

[evil__sheep]

what a stupid reason to break up! no wonder you're having trouble - it's akin to saying you'll both just go off and sleep with other people for a couple of months then get back together

[hellymyname]

I know, it is a stupid reason but he is going on a typical "lads holiday" and im also going away with my friends. also we would not be able to talk regularly or anything. I know it sounds so stupid but it seemed less complicated than trying to make it work when really we should just be carefree except now im left missing him and feeling so upset

[bloomwood]

Does he feel the same way you do? I dont understand why you cant have contact with each other when on holiday!

[askyourgran]

It was a mutual agreement and not a split because of a row or infidelity, so be comforted that you parted the best of friends. You are right and sensible to do what you have done. When you both do graduate that will be the end anyway, won't it? Getting back together after the summer will leave you wondering if he has had a better time than you. Maybe both of you may have found someone else better. and I suspect that if you did get together after the summer no amount of explanation will stop you wondering things are the same as before. You are young and there is a lot of life out there. Enjoy it.

[hellymyname]

thank you, i just dont know how to deal with it at the moment and i dont know how you get over someone who you still have feelings for and who still has feelings for you. particularly as when we do talk it will be the same as when we were together and im just worried that if we do see each other at all which we will do if we are both in the country at the same time, what will happen. because if we continue as if we never broke up then it kind of leaves you in the awkward position where ultimately your in an open relationship and i just dont want to get hurt

[Rodge2]

I wonder if he's feeling the same as you are?

[notasyoungasiwas]

I think you need a good heart to heart with him. He may be feeling the same way and why be apart when you can be together? Just tell him how you feel - what have you go to lose? Just ring him.

[hellymyname]

No, he is away and i leave soon and i will be unable to contact him! seems best to just leave it but doesnt stop me missing him

[boxtops]

I was going to say "text him" - would he mind getting a text from you while he's away with the lads? On the other hand, if he is indeed having fun without you, then it might put him in a difficult situation and you don't want to part bad friends - you'd feel worse if he didn't respond.

[hellymyname]

yeah we agreed to send each other texts every now and again to make sure the other is okay etc so i will do that !

[Rodge2]

Maybe you are in it for the long game here. If he misses you as much as you're missing him, it will make him more aware of what you mean to him.