am i being paranoid cont...................

[lotsafun]

when his sister asked him why he said what he did he tried to justify it by saying id only want one of these huge white weddings with all the trimmings but if he really listened to me in the past he would realise that thats not what i want at all, infact i couldnt think of anything worse for myself personally. I want more of a small personall wedding.
The thing i want advice with is do i sit him down and tell him that what he said hurt me and how dissappointed i am or do i just forget it. How woiuld i approach the subject at all?
itas a catch 22 situation because i dont want him to feel pressured into marrying me but i also want him to rewalise how important it is to me too.

[redcrx]

if youre wanting to marry then you should be close enough to discuss the subject and also to tell him that he hurt your feelings.

but keep calm as you do it and dont force the issue, just tell him how you feel and then leave him to think.

ps. Im not married to my partner and every time anyone asks him if he will marry me he says he will just wait longer before asking me as he doesnt want to feel like he was made to ask lol

[ChocolatChip]

I agree with what you're doing, you must tell him how hurt you are about what he said. Otherwise these feelings will fester and will eat away at you and the relationship you have with your parent.
It is very important to be calm as redcrx says, as it will only make the situation worse. Ask him why he doesn't want to get married maybe? As if neither of you want a big expensive ceremony then it shouldn't be a big deal. I am concerned that there maybe more to it than that. Are his parents divorced?

[lotsafun]

sadly he lost his mam 5 years ago, but from what is said his parents were very happily married. his dad is often saying how he would love to see us both married and has even gone to the extreme of saying he would pay for the whole thing at one point! My mam and dad have also hinted that they would contribute if we decide to go ahead. i cant help but feel its one excuse after another, maybe i should just except that its not going to happen. I want to tell him how i feel but i dont im worried that its going to seem like im givng him a ultimatumn. im seriously confused.com lol