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Liar complex (not compulsive lying)

For years I've had a complex where I feel people don't believe what I'm saying. It began when i had an invisible illness which meant i missed days of work quite frequently and so perhaps my employers didn't believe me at the time.
As the years went on I found that whenever I was in a similar situation (whereby you expect the other person to just take your word for it) I would feel anxious as though they didn't believe me. The worst part is that this anxiety leads me to try convincing my own conscious mind that I am in fact lying, when I am most certainly not. This tends to lead my subconscious mind to sabotage my own credibility by sounding less truthful, worsening the overall problem.

This is currently proving to be a major issue as I am an M.E. sufferer off work and my employers don't believe I am ill (although of course they haven't admitted as much due to legal ramifications). They have documentary evidence of my illness but because the illness is invisible it largely comes down to trust when assessing a sufferers ability to work. In other words I look fine, but I am completely unable to work for a large list of reasons (M.E. has so many symptoms it's unreal!)

What I am eager to know is whether this condition is recognised by psychiatrists and if there is a name for it or a place I can learn more about it.

Thanks in advance!

barcelonic29 Sun 20/07/08 16:47

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barcelonic29
Sun 20/07/08
17:34

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Thanks but I'm hopin for answers from ppl who know about psychiatry.

Best of luck with your syphilis by the way, but i wouldn't use your username to advertise your VD

stevie1time
Mon 21/07/08
07:45

Unfortunately i think you aint got much chance..That tale of the boy who cried wolf comes to mind,mud sticks im afraid and your employers will use your past as a point for the present...Also whats going on mate? have a family and friends??

Lil O'lady
Mon 21/07/08
13:03

You need to get a referral from your GP to a professional who will be able to help yopu start sorting yourself out. AB is not the answer.

barcelonic29
Mon 21/07/08
19:00

Question Author

i'm confused. what is AB?

And also, let me make it clear that i do not lie, i'm terrible at it and it makes me feel bad. i've always been this way so it's certainly not a case of boy who cried wolf.

first step is to see if it is a known problem, if not i guess i could consider therapy but it seems too small a problem to require psychiatric help.

barcelonic29
Mon 21/07/08
19:01

Question Author

and i do have family and friends but i don't understand what you mean - ??

barcelonic29
Mon 21/07/08
19:04

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oh if you happen to have noticed my response with the harsh remark, i was replying to a potentially offensive post that has now been deleted by someone who had offended me slightly, and his username was kNobblyNuts

taichiperson
Mon 21/07/08
19:05

AB is answerbank.......
Sorry I can't be of any more help.

JonnyBoy12
Mon 21/07/08
22:53

I think you may have to "lie" low on this one.

All joking apart, I believe you, but I am not your employer. My mother also has this condition, and it is no joke, so you have my sympathies. I will let you know if I can give you any real advice later.

barcelonic29
Tue 22/07/08
00:30

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thanks johnnyboy, does your mother know what it is called?

JonnyBoy12
Tue 22/07/08
09:25

I meant my mother has the condition of M.E., not the other condition, so do not really know what it is called, but will let you know if I do.

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