Well, I'm in a long distance relationship with this girl, and we fell in love. We are both only 13, and she lives with her older sister, and I live with my parents. Well yesterday she told me she loves me over the phone, and her sister heard her, and she never knew that we were bf and gf in the first place.
And on top of that her whole school knows that she is in love with me, but only two people in my whole town know that I love her...
So know I think that the right thing to do would be to tell my parents how I feel about her, because it's my fault her sister found out because I said "I love you" first. But I really don't want my parents to know, because they will treat it like a bigger deal than it already is, so can I get some advice on what I should do?
Btw my girlfriend said that I should only tell my parents if I want to, but I still think that wether I want to or not it is the right thing to do.
Shadow666777 Sat 10/05/08 07:26
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Shadow, you didn't mention the long distance aspect in your previous question. Maybe I didn't connect this background from an earlier post but you really need to paint the whole picture in a question.
There is a huge difference between falling in love at 13 with someone next to you and your situation where you have never met. Love involves a lot of different things and some of them are chemical. You won't get this at a distance.
It is much easier to fall in love with the concept of a person than in real life. We can easily fill in the missing parts with a glamourised image. Many an internet romance has fallen flat on meeting.
From what you say this girl is also under massive pressure. You both need to get back to earth before this goes any further out of hand. From your previous post you were already trying to get your head around a very complex issue.
Only you can know if it is a good idea to talk to your parents because we don't really know what they are like. But the impression I get is you trust them.
Maybe consider talking to them. But don't go out and say you are in love with a girl you have never met or yo are likely to get the reaction you anticipate. Tell them you have been talking to someone at a distance and you have been really surprised by the feelings you have developed for each other. I think that is an honest interpretation of what you have presented here.
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I agree with beso.
And even though it's a terrible thing to say to people, and they normally choose to think they are the exception to the rule. But at 13, you and your girlfriend would be going through puberty, and it makes life very difficult, and you don't know which way is up. Have you met your girlfriend in person?
You cannot be in love with someone over the internet if you have never met. Maybe love... Maybe infatuation. But not love. To be in love with someone, you have to be able to see their facial reactions, be close to them, touch them, know their smell. Things that you cannot know or see over the internet.
You should tell your parents, if you want to meet her. Why would they make a big deal out of it?
I know it's difficult, I've been in the same situation. I was 16 and met someone over the internet. I thought he was lovely. We met a couple of months later and now after a long time of meeting up pretty much every weekend. We now live together and are very happy.
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My God...its so hard when you are that age (I am 42 now) and I have a son who is 12.
You may be in love now (I was at your age) but life has a lot more exciting things in store for you yet...
Personally I WOULD tell your parents...why not? And if you havnt met up with her yet, then do so, and again, why not?
Have fun while you are young but dont let gf/bf relationships be the predominant thing in your life just yet.
I wish you well (and wish I was 13 again...lol)
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