Wife is too demanding!!!!!!1

[DrChandra]

My wife of many many many years is very demanding.She says I am not romantic enough.I give her chocolates and flowers but she saya they are not personal enough I give her a poem and she comlains because I did not write it.I say I love you but she says I say it so much it has lost its meaning! I mean what am I supposed to do??????? Any ideas for an end to this problem.

[mike42]

trade her in for a younger model dude.

[Blyss]

She sounds bored to me , flowers and chocolates are ok, but it can be a bit boring . Think on it ..like everytime she buys you a gift she buys you a tie or socks??
Treat her to a day out at a spa or if that is to expensive , to a nail salon or her hair done??

Failing all that , seek a lawyer.

[hammerman]

She would've been out of the door long ago if that was my wife.....what a bleedin' dragon.

Get a divorce or tell her to shut the f**k up

[DrChandra]

I could never trade her in for a younger model.She is everything to me.That health spa sounds a good idea then again she will probobly say I have not used any imagination in choosing it and it is not personal enough.To think I have had 42 years of this!!!!!!

[B00]

She's bored as Blyss has suggested.

Has she thought of a part time job? Volunteer work? A hobby? Anything which fills her days while you aren't there.

[MangoPete]

This could be either a cry for help or she is feeling insecure and wants you to prove she is still attractive to you and the world
notice me I'm bored
I want physical attention
I want you to spend more time with me
She obviously wants some thing from within you?
Can you give this?

how much time do you spend with her?
How long has she ben like this
is she a spoiled princess
Is there possibility of hormonal change
Has she and her mates been talkng and she wants assurance.
It could be she has a cxhemical imbalance.
There are so many things
I suggest you sit down and listen to what she is not saying.
Has she a reason to think you are commited as you once were?
Are you working too hard? or on the computer too much
If you have been married for so long does she usually complain and want to be the centre of your world, if not the inscurity has come from somehwere and being a bloke you may not understand where or why.

[DrChandra]

She is quite busy really.She is officially retired but she still does a lot of work counselling people at home.She has a lot of friends and is often out.She has always been like this.She loves me but has always been over romantic and likes me to be to.

[havinmysay]

poor u it must be so hurtfull
u dont need any proof that u love someone and it shouldnt need presents for u to tell her. how does she show she loves u?

[DrChandra]

I guess we have managed for 42 years we will manage for the rest of our lives.Maybe it was because I said this morning when she is reincarnated God will choose a snake!

[DrChandra]

She is the worlds most romantic person.Always hugging me and kissing me.Obviously at our age me are not very passionate anymore and she is happy with that.She gives me presents and writes me lovely poems.I am just not like that.I am rubbish at romantic.The only time she was really pleased with my romantic efforts was when I proposed.

[havinmysay]

put it this way u gotta be doin somethin right if u been together for 42 years
talk to her and ask her what she expects of u

[DrChandra]

There is no big problem.She wants me to be all sweet and romantic and I am not like that. I love her but I prefer not to say anything and love her quietly.

[angeldraws]

Loving someone 'quietly' isn't always the way tho - perhaps you assume she knows you love her, but not all women CAN assume. Relationships need working at constantly. Think of it like feeding yourself - you dont think 'ah i've eaten, that will last me the rest of my life' - you need to eat again when you next feel hungry - and so it is with relationships - you have to feed them, positively. It sounds to me like she needs a few words of kindness/love. something deep, from your heart eg. 'you mean everything to me' or 'i would never change my life with you, you are special' but make it sound as tho you mean it. Men do tend to see love through their partners actions but women often need the words too. I would say you're half way there with the chocolates and flowers, she needs that little extra bit from YOU, from deep down. It doesn't hurt to do that now does it? Even if, as you say, you're not like that - just make the special effort. People dont always have the same needs as they always did, it's part of growth, love and understanding. Give it a try, for the sake of you, your wife and your marraige, if you treasure them.

[philandlil]

suprise her with a weekend in paris, buy her roses and hide jewellery in the packaging. when you think of ideas of what to buy or do, think what would be better and do that.

[mangetoute]

well dr love her a bit louder,go and pick some wild flowers,take her for a picnic before it gets too cold,just because your dont do romance dos'nt mean you can't ,just use your imagination,after 42 yrs you should know what she likes.you could give her a massage,make her a meal just try,i'm sure she will apreciate the effort.try being spontanious.

[B00]

Yes but seriously- after 42 years shouldn't she know he loves her?

Sorry to be blunt but clingy wimmin like this irritate me, tell her to get a grip for gawds sake!

[redcrx]

U prefer to love her quietly and yet to say 'i love you' too much??

Sounds like shes bored with you and whatever you do or say will be wrong. It could be best for both if you either make do with what you have or divorce.

You cant teach an old dog...............

[Eve]

Why not ask her? Unless you'll get the token response that you should know haha.

Think of things that aren't just easy and traditional to do like buying flowers and jewellery.

Try the element of surprise, just come up behind her and kiss her neck and whisper something romantic to her.

When you're sitting there one day just suggest taking off to the seaside and sitting on the front with an icecream and walking hand in hand along the beach.

Take her somewhere with a gorgeous view for a surprise moonlit picnic.

Get some professional romantic photos done together and keep one in your wallet.

Arrange a suprise dinner with her closest family and friends and get old videos and pictures and such out. Make a speech and have a toast as to how much she means to you. Maybe arrange for someone who she hasn't seen for a long time to be there as a surprise.

If you wake up and go out first leave a rose (or her favourite flower) on your pillow with a little note.

Renew your wedding vows.

Think of the things you love about her she may not know about eg if you watch her sleep, love the way she laughs at something, love watching her do something like putting her makeup on, how it makes you feel when you kiss her... Write them on little notes and leave them round the house in surprise places she'll find them.

Make a special album of special pictures of you together with little notes and memories such as how you felt when you first met, got married etc... and memories of where you met etc... things you remember and love. Photographers can do some beautiful ones these days where they make photos into a book rather than just sticking them on pages. They are very popular for weddings these days.

Make something for her like a special jewellery box and have it engraved.

Something personal, spending the most

[DrChandra]

Thanks alot.Good answers.I liked the pick some wild flowers idea so just then I went for a walk with the dog and picked a bunch.She LOVED them!

[Eve]

precious thing you can with her...your time.

Oh, you could make a CD of her favourite songs, maybe one of songs which remind you of her.