Is It Normal To Feel Like This?

[abbeylee90]

At the moment I'm struggling to get a job still living at home and single or not enough of a social life I'm constantly feeling down

[barry1010]

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[pastafreak]

So do I! Otherwise Abbey, and possibly others, will not seek and get much needed advice.

[pastafreak]

My response was to floko.

[wolf63]

AH, than you for your clarification of a mod's remit. Too many posts have been zapped for no good reason.

Abbey
Your first step is to get a job and stay in it for a year minimum. Forget about your social life, concentrate on your job.

Or, as has been mentioned, go to college and get some qualifications.

Good luck.

[Peter Pedant]

oh bobbing you tease you

1970 I recollect part time day release - salisbury tech - Zoology A level was full of young clerks itching to get off the lowest rung and aware they hadnt achieved at skool and that was a disadvantage.

The leddy Mayor of Salisbury visited us and said to 'Sir' - why does that rifleman need to know Zoology?
Yup we were supported by all and sundry.

[Bobbisox1]

Sorry to digress but does anyone know what PP is talking about?
Abbylee, lots of us have advised you , helped you but for whatever reasons, you don’t appear to take any notice,it’s been said a hundred times before, take a job, any job and work toward getting a flat,most of what you want from life will fall into place,you don’t like the job? Look for another that you will like but make sure there’s a wage coming in to pay rent , electricity,gas etc, at 30+ years , you must take responsibility for your path in life , nothing in life is free, you have to work for it, good luck

[Zacs-Master]

‘ I believe damage to the reputation of Moderators, and to the site, should be addressed’

Oh, the irony.

[LadyCG]

If you wish to be a guardian of morality, Zacs, perhaps you should set an example and stay on-topic.

[andy-hughes]

Zacs - As i constantly have to remind people, all Mods are AB'ers first and foremost, and I am happy to be judged on that basis.

My actions as a Moderator are separate, and anonymous, so do not relate to my posts, and therefore my actions as an AB'er neither reflect or influence my.role as a Moderator.

[youngmafbog]

// helped you but for whatever reasons, you don’t appear to take any notice//

Not picking on you bobbi as others have said similar but I suspect I understand the underlying problem.

Giving advice and taking advice are two different things, especially when one feels in a rut.

Abbey, you sound very similar to one of my daughters, she saw the other two go to Uni and get good jobs but she struggled to come to terms with growing up then found herself at 30 in a similar position to you. I got her to write down (not for me to see) what she wanted to do with her life and look at which was most important to her happiness. For instance above (sound) advice says find a job first but I know that will be near impossible if you really dont feel so down about yourself as you will project your feelings at any interview/chat.

So try that, and then set yourslef small goals to get out of it. I will be honest with you, it is highly unlikely to all get fixed in one go but on the positive side once you get going it is often amazing what then falls into place. It's the getting going that is difficult I know.

I am sure it will get better for you so chin up and face the world with a smile (even if you dont feel like it yourself). A positive outlook will help you with your social life too :-)

[Zacs-Master]

‘ My actions as a Moderator are separate, and anonymous, so do not relate to my posts, and therefore my actions as an AB'er neither reflect or influence my.role as a Moderator.’

But you posted as Andy Hughes, commenting on something you’d done as a moderator. It was anything but anonymous.

[Zacs-Master]

This isn’t anything to do with ‘morals’ LCG and everything to do with applying moderation.

[Zacs-Master]

Appalling moderation.

[andy-hughes]

Zacs - I'm not going to assist you in derailing this thread any further.

If you want to continue this line of debate, why not start a thread on Chat, and we can pursue it there.

I am not commenting further on here, except to address the OP.

[Zacs-Master]

‘ Zacs - I'm not going to assist you in derailing this thread any further’

Again, the irony of that statement is mind bogglingly hypocritical.

[Floko]

Let the matter of mods rest now so that Abbey can read and hopefully digest the help given. I hate seeing squabbles

[Zacs-Master]

Indeed.

[andy-hughes]

Absolutely.

[pastafreak]

Abbey...excellent advice from Zacs @13:55. May I add that along with your goals give thought to what really interests you. Then add that to your job search. There is no use in taking any job if it's not enough to keep you interested in the long term.

[naomi24]

Pasta, I think you mean excellent advice from YMB.