Am I Overreacting

[breadstick]

My son is getting married within the next few months and I learnt today that his soon to be wife compiled the seating arrangements as to who sits where and with whome with her friend without any consultation with my son

Surely it matters what he thinks about aspects of the wedding like this?

[Baldric]

As long as he's happy with it, no problem.

[jno]

what does he think?

[ummmm]

As the others have said, as long as he's happy.

[Mamyalynne]

He's probably quietly relieved her friend helped her - I wouldn't worry about it.

[breadstick]

He isn't best pleased to be honest

[sherrardk]

If he's not happy then he should say so.

[ladybirder]

If he's unhappy about it I'm sure he's have a word with her.

BTW, did you ever get to know what other breeds your JR is mixed with?

[Mamyalynne]

He should be having a chat with her really, not you.

[gness]

Strange thing to do with a friend instead of the groom to be, Breadstick....she sounds a little immature?

Surely part of the joy of the day is planning it together?

[Cloverjo]

If he's anything like my son, he would have been pleased to leave her to it. At long as she hasn't put you in a corner or at the back, I wouldn't worry.

[Cloverjo]

I missed your recent post that he isn't best pleased. He should mention to her if there are placings he's not happy about.

[sivam]

A bit high handed. Does not bode well for the future. He should think very carefully about their future!!!

[woofgang]

its between them....if he's not happy then he has to deal with it directly with his wife to be...TBH I don't think you should be reacting at all.

[jno]

I kind of agree with sivam. They really ought to be working out a way of communicating, discussing and agreeing on things.

Then again, if it's a problem, it's better spotted before the marriage than after.

[woofgang]

very true Jno

[tonyav]

the seating arrangements

Must admit that I side stepped that ( all those years ago ), let wife to be, future mil and my mom sort it.

[-SharonA-]

When I got wed, Mr A couldn't have gave a toss who sat where as long as our parents were on top table.

[Mamyalynne]

It's best when they say 'We're getting married' and all you do is ask when to turn up ;-)

I offered help if needed then left them to it.

[Old_Geezer]

It's nice to be asked, but I was of the impression that the groom's job was to turn up, preferably reasonably sober. Unsure what he'd be unhappy about regarding who sits where, but if he thinks his friends should be on a better table he should say so.

[gness]

The wonderful wedding I attended today was organised completely by the bride and groom together......family arrived yesterday to help set everything up...there was no seating plan....we just chose our seats and had a shuffle around during the courses to chat to others....x