Death Of A Spouse

[Jennykenny]

Does anyone have simplified list of things to do when a spouse dies.
I don't mean contacting the undertaker etc, - the hospital has given me a booklet on that. I am thinking of things that perhaps get missed in the general manner of things.
Thanks.

[Maydup]

A gentle ((( hug ))) for you JennyKenny. As the others have said, take yourtime and don't rush. You need to keep busy I know, but you need to grieve too and we 're all here for you when you fancy a chat. Take care and take one day at a time.

[janbee]

JK... xx

[mallyh]

so sorry for your loss xx

[Jennykenny]

Thank you all. You're very kind and thoughtful.

[Jennykenny]

Maydup, I particularly liked your hug.

[Mamyalynne]

Hope you're looking after yourself Jenny.♥

[jourdain2]

So very sorry for you and your loss. That hasn't happened to me yet, but the likelihood is that it will (OH is 17 yrs. older than I). Please take a lot of time before doing things like disposing of clothing etc. if you have no family to do it for you.
I'll keep an eye out for future posts just in case I can help. xxxx

[Jennykenny]

Probably no one goes onto this answer now, as it as been some time ago, but I do, now and again, and it it always reduces me to tears, but in a nice way.
I really appreciate your thoughts. Such kind people.

[Psybbo]

My thoughts are with you at this sad time

[pusskin]

I do hope you are coping ok Jenny.
it hasnt happened to me yet, but dread the day that it does.
Like you...i wouldnt know where to start coming to terms with these things.
Take care, and look after yourself well. Happy new year x

[Mamyalynne]

The very hardest times after a bereavement are the times when others are celebrating and happy - so often that only deepens our loss.


I feel for you, always someone here for a chat.x

[murraymints]

jenny...special wishes coming your way for a bright start to 2015...it will be very poignant for you without your loved one...but memories never leave you..take good care....hugs.....xx

[gness]

A time of year for mixed feelings, Jenny......lots of lonely moments.... and so many happy memories.....take care....Gx

[sunny-dave]

It's a difficult time of year - everyone talking about looking forward, when your thoughts will inevitably be about the past.

I hope you can be happy in your memories - remember the best of times and smile.

Dave xx

[Ann]

Thinking of you especially tonight Jenny, it's hard for all of us who have lost loved ones this year. Hope 2015 brings comfort and strength to you. God bless. Ann x

[Jennykenny]

Thank you all.

[kylesmum]

You'll never be fine Jenny but you will get better.I along with a lot of people on AB have reached out in the depths , not only of utter despair but times likes this...the 'firsts'. They're tough...it's almost like you have to say you lost your husband last year now..it's not quite so current but of course it is.We do understand.We all lose parents and loved ones but to lose a life partner must be particularly tough as you don't share the same intimacy , hopes and dreams with anyone else. I do understand to a degree...truly.My heart goes out to you and i'm quite shocked that you lost your husband a few weeks backs and didnt get the response and support others would get for burning their spuds for example...it's fickle.You must chat and interact, talk to us, it does help to talk to strangers, we can help by just being here to scream at, help and just keep you company in general.Take care, it's a sad , lonely time but you're not alone as you came on here ans so long as you chat in CB you won't go wrong xxx

[PankySmooch]

What she says ^^^^

There are good people on here 24hrs a day

Not saying I'm one of them but stick with them, they're a good bunch xx

[quizzywig]

My heart goes out to you, Jenny. So sorry for your loss.

[Jennykenny]

I can't imagine that anyone will be 'monitoring' this post but it is a year now since my husband died on December 1st 2014.
I got a great amount of support and advice from people on Answerbank and have tried to repay that to others when they have asked.
Thank you all.