Mic made me promise I would not send him to hospital. I have been up since 2 this morning trying to do my best for him. He is now on the sofa and can't get up, not even with my help. I wish I was a 16 stone navvy,
Jeza, I know you have been kind of insular of late but is there no one that could help ? At times like these when other ABers needed help, I wish I lived closer. You may have to have another chat with Mic about that promise and at the time it was realistic, now however... xxx
You have to get assistance in, Jeza. You can't do this and you risk injuring yourself and then what good would you be to Mic.......tell him this. They may just help and steer you to carer support to.
Sweetheart we understand - it may not mean going into hospital, they could get a bed in downstairs and whatever else is needed, his wish to stay at home will be given the greatest consideration.
Jeza - ask the GP to make a home visit, then it's not your decision, it's the GP's. Surely mikmak will understand - he may not realise the burden that this is putting on you, even for his basic daily needs.....
I was in exactly the same situation as you Jeza. It took me all day to persuade my husband and in the end, he agreed that, little me couldn't lift or carry a man his weight.
You can't manage by yourself. Keep trying to persuade him. You're in my thoughts. X
Jeza, you are no good to anyone if you become ill too. I know you don't want to break your promise but this can't go on. Is there any possibility of some help at home from a care agency, etc?
I know you promised - but how can you manage with everything, toileting and so on? I could weep for you - you need help. You can't do it all. If you do anything e.g. hurt your back, fall, you will both be in hospital.... ring the GP now, you need to.
Jeza, as others have said, if you fall ill with stress or hurt your back, mic would have to be looked after in hospital or a nursing home. By getting help within your home now, this can be avoided.