Common problem rosie - the trick is to pretend it's there, and click on where you think it should be. Don't forget to tick submit at the bottom too. This has happened to lots of people but it does work!
dear Boxtops,
sorry I am being really thick, but any clues as to where to try to click- I have tried all over the bit that says gravitar inactive, so not sure where to go now
Rosie
Chuckfickens has put a picture online, showing where the tick box should be. Simply click in the same place in your profile:
http://chuckfickens.org/tick-box.png
Hurrah,
I managed it!
Thanks for all your help everyone. As you can see cpfc refers to my team- please wish us luck for tomorrow- if we lose then not only relegated but also team will probably go out of existance. Thank you so much Michael Portillo and Agilo for putting team into administration. I wish nothing but bad thoughts upon all involved in this rotten hedge fund.