Dead Question

[society]

Why isn't it allowed to bury dead loved ones/people in ones own backyard or their land?

[boxtops]

It is (if you fufil certain requirements) http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/3630221.stm

[sandyRoe]

Potential contamination of the water table?

[factor-fiction]

Would you have to move the body though if you move house, or would the new owner have to run the risk of finding a head when gardening?

[mrs_overall]

You can bury a loved one in your garden in certain circumstances. A body is classed as clinical waste and you would need the permission of the Environment Agency

[aelmpvw]

funeral directors are starting to get nervous

[society]

Thanks for the answers, everyone.

Very interesting article, Boxtops. Thanks

[2sp_]

My dad told me a story of a woman he knew when he was young. She was very well to do and when her infant son died she had him buried in the (large) garden so she could see his grave from her bedroom window.

The poor woman ended up in an institution after having a breakdown. Must have been awful enough loosing her son, but to sit and watch his grave all day just tipped her over the edge.

So, not a good plan, IMO.

[Dee Sa]

as factor fiction says what would happen if you moved or died and the house sold on and they were digging up their veg patch one day and came across an arm or a leg ? its not on.

[society]

Sp, that's sad.

[Jeza]

Just my opinion but I think all dead people should be cremated. Burial takes up land, and it's fine to say you will attend the grave, daily or weekly, Time passes and you too die, Cremation allows people to move on.

[gness]

My friend buried her husband in their garden. He died suddenly, quite young and she couldn't bear to be parted.
Seven years on she has met someone else. Strange situation I think.

[craft1948]

Under the patio always worked for me...............

[boxtops]

I would find it difficult to know someone is in the back garden, however much I loved them.

I find it hard to understand people perpetuating unexpected deaths, particularly road accidents. When I lived in Brighton, for years a family tied fresh flowers every day to a lamp-post on the road across the racecourse where their son was killed. Here, a schoolgirl was killed by a car in 2002 - her family have made a shrine with plastic flowers and a plaque stuck on a hoarding, and there was uproar when it was proposed to take down the hoarding and build on the site. I accept it's very hard (if not impossible) to come to terms with a death like that, but how do you ever have closure if you tend a memorial daily? We leave flowers on my parents' graves, but on special days, not all the time....

[gness]

I struggle to understand leaving flowers etc. where someone died. I can't see the difference between that and my tying a bunch of flowers to my OH's hospital death bed. Maybe I'm being hard but there are ways of remembering and moving on. A shrine at a place of death seems wrong.

[DJHawkes]

that's why this world works, we're all different, our family place flowers on the lamp post that killed Danny regularly.

[boxtops]

Indeed, dotty - each to their own