A man who I met walking into town, a couple of years ago, is starting to pester me to go for a coffee or call him to talk, especially if I have a problem. I saw him in town today, we chatted, and later in a shop queue and he looked behind and said I think you are stalking me, but I don't mind. He was hanging about until I got served, but I went back into the shop, to avoid him, as he said he was walking home shortly and we could be walking home at the same time. I think he is lonely, he is retired and his slightly younger wife is still working. He seems to be a nice person but he is a married man and I don't want him to keep asking me out etc. I do not want to be rude but I have a full life and TBH do not want to meeting a married man.What shall I do ?
Sometimes you just have to be a bit less friendly, you can still be civil and polite but if he is being a pest you may have to make it a bit clearer that you are not interested in his company. Some pests don't take the hint though. The imaginary boyfriend can do the trick sometimes but more of a one off for someone you (hopefully) aren't likely to see again. If he comes...
He wants a sexual relationship with you.
If you are in agreement.......no problem.
If you are not......" If you don't stop following me i will tell your wife."
seanne he is a sad old fool -the next time he offers to buy you coffee just say'why not ask your wife out? -she's working hard while you are now retired -she could do with a treat'
I've always found running to tell tales to wives a bit unnecessary. Falling for the 'I'm just lonely/my wife doesn't understand me is just as bad. When will women realise men (unless Gay) do not want you as friends and confidants (they have mates and dogs for that).