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Police Take Flowers From Girls, For Mothers Day....
Should the policewoman just have given the Father a warning, and let the girls keep the flowers,
or should the Father have bought flowers from a florist, in the first place?
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or should the Father have bought flowers from a florist, in the first place?
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It takes a hell of a lot to make me angry but somebody saying "I pay your wages" makes my blood boil. I once worked in an environment where people often said this when they couldn't get their own way. My reply was always the same, would you please give me a raise, I don't get paid enough to take your abuse.
00:47 Tue 28th Mar 2017
Looking at this from a calm perspective -
This dad is embarrassed because he has done wrong without realising it, so he over-reacts as a consequence.
Human nature dictates that we don't want to be in the wrong, so if we can make someone else in the wrong, it deflects the responsibility for being responsible for the conflict, and that is what this man has done here.
The correct response is - my apologies officer, I didn't realise this was an offence, I understand that you need to take the flowers, and I will explain to my children that I have made a mistake, it is not their fault and they are not in trouble with you, and neither am I.
His incorrect reaction - although understandable for reasons explained - is to make the officer the villain, and to underline his sense of self-righteousness (deflection of blame again) by insulting and demeaning her - "I pay your wages, and you should be catching criminals ..." - the standard 'defence'.
As the officer points out, she also pays taxes, possible more than he does, and what she didn't point out, but could have done, is that she had caught a criminal - him!
The notion that whatever offence you are being spoken to about is not as serious as a rape or a murder is no defence whatsoever. The police don't ignore one offence they can see because other more serious offenses outside their sight are going on - that is fatuous as an argument.
The man behaved badly by blowing everything up into a major row, and filming his children for his own self-justification, instead of talking to them calmly about what had happened, and why.
You can never stop people making fools of themselves, and because everyone is a Martin Scorsese with cameras on phones, they can make fools of themselves to millions of strangers, who will scoff at them, like I am doing now.
This dad is embarrassed because he has done wrong without realising it, so he over-reacts as a consequence.
Human nature dictates that we don't want to be in the wrong, so if we can make someone else in the wrong, it deflects the responsibility for being responsible for the conflict, and that is what this man has done here.
The correct response is - my apologies officer, I didn't realise this was an offence, I understand that you need to take the flowers, and I will explain to my children that I have made a mistake, it is not their fault and they are not in trouble with you, and neither am I.
His incorrect reaction - although understandable for reasons explained - is to make the officer the villain, and to underline his sense of self-righteousness (deflection of blame again) by insulting and demeaning her - "I pay your wages, and you should be catching criminals ..." - the standard 'defence'.
As the officer points out, she also pays taxes, possible more than he does, and what she didn't point out, but could have done, is that she had caught a criminal - him!
The notion that whatever offence you are being spoken to about is not as serious as a rape or a murder is no defence whatsoever. The police don't ignore one offence they can see because other more serious offenses outside their sight are going on - that is fatuous as an argument.
The man behaved badly by blowing everything up into a major row, and filming his children for his own self-justification, instead of talking to them calmly about what had happened, and why.
You can never stop people making fools of themselves, and because everyone is a Martin Scorsese with cameras on phones, they can make fools of themselves to millions of strangers, who will scoff at them, like I am doing now.
Talbot - Just because I am advising that I am looking at the situation from a calm perspective does not infer, much less state, than no-one else is not doing the same.
You really must lose this habit of seeing things that are not there, and then arguing about them - it's tedious and it takes the thread off-track.
You really must lose this habit of seeing things that are not there, and then arguing about them - it's tedious and it takes the thread off-track.
Think the point is that yet kids like picking flowers of course, but if everyone went around picking 27 daffodils there would be none left! Still think on this occasion seeing as they'd already been picked she should have let the girls keep them - they went to an old people home in the end anyway so the girls could have taken them home.
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