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Should My Girlfriend Be Hanging Out With Other Guys? Help?
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So my girlfriend of 9 months just got a a part time job....well..about 2 months ago. She got a job at Hooters so she's surrounded by perverts all day. She also goes to an automotive engineering college, so the guys are always drooling over her cause she's like the only girl in the class. The guys are all really nice to her and flirt with her all the time...she says that they are her only friends and that she wants me to let her hang out at their houses alone (without me) and go bowling and to the movies and such.
I am very against this however my girlfriend is not. She claims she doesn't have any girl friends but the ones she works with, and that there all older than her and don't have time to hang out. She dosn't ever dress like a *** in public except her hooters outfit at work, she dosn't ever where makeup either unless she's at work either she's just naturally pretty and all the guys flirt with her and it pisses me off so bad.
I know i'm lucky to have her and she let's me hang out with other people including girls and she says that she trust me around them, but how do I know I can trust her if she's around guys 24-7, should I risk my relationship with her and say that I'm against it or should I suck it up and let her go do things with other guys?
I am very against this however my girlfriend is not. She claims she doesn't have any girl friends but the ones she works with, and that there all older than her and don't have time to hang out. She dosn't ever dress like a *** in public except her hooters outfit at work, she dosn't ever where makeup either unless she's at work either she's just naturally pretty and all the guys flirt with her and it pisses me off so bad.
I know i'm lucky to have her and she let's me hang out with other people including girls and she says that she trust me around them, but how do I know I can trust her if she's around guys 24-7, should I risk my relationship with her and say that I'm against it or should I suck it up and let her go do things with other guys?
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My boyfriend is in a band and he's constantly surrounded by girls who fling themselves at him, and no it doesnt bother me at all because I trust him, likewise I act and am around attractive guys quite a lot and it doesnt bother him either because he trusts me. Don't be so needy, your girlfriend has chosen you.
11:59 Sun 17th Mar 2013
I agree what folk says about not getting uptight about her having friends of her own. My previous advice is down to your description which seems to me to be of her having dates with others, and so not apparently feeling commitment to your relationship. Ultimately there is a limit to the value of what others think, you have to decide for yourself, what you are able to put up with. It's not a case of one person controlling another but both compromising knowing the needs of the other. Go talk with her again, and remember to listen too.I agree what folk says about not getting uptight about her having friends of her own. My previous advice is down to your description which seems to me to be her having dates with others and so not apparently feeling commitment to your relationship. Ultimately there is a limit to the value of what others here think, you have to decide for yourself, what you are able to put up with. It's not a case of one person controlling another but both compromising, knowing the needs of the other. Go talk with her again, and remember to listen too.
If you are thinking of dumping her because she has friends outside of your approval and think she shouldn't because you don't like it then you are clearly not right for her. You have to trust a person you are with, this problem will keep coming back to you with every partner you have until you understand that it's your probem not theirs. Most younger women wouldnt stand for someone trying to dictate or control what they do, I wouldn't and niether would anyone I know. Why dont you just relax and accept her word that she's chosen you instead of looking for a reason for it all to go wrong?
My boyfriend is in a band and he's constantly surrounded by girls who fling themselves at him, and no it doesnt bother me at all because I trust him, likewise I act and am around attractive guys quite a lot and it doesnt bother him either because he trusts me. Don't be so needy, your girlfriend has chosen you.