First Date, is he interested ???

[pinkchick06]

I went on a date thursday night. We met through a dating website but discovered he only lived 5 minutes away from each other. Anyway, we have been chatting a few weeks and got on like a house on fire. He asked me to go for a drink last minute thursday night, I was abit hesitant as didn't wana look desperate or anything but agreed. He took me to a pub which we both haven't been in before (I asked not to go local, he wanted to) we didn't stay long. When we drove back we talked about all sorts and he kept saying he loved my positive outlook on life. He also said he felt as ease and very relaxed around me which was good, A few times he also wanted to tell me he wasn't looking for a one night stand he actually wanted a relationship.

We ended up back at his, lying on his bed (no tele in the living room of his flat) watching Kymatica on youtube. He casually asked me could I do an indian head massage on him, I said no, 10 minutes late he asked me to do a hand massage I again said no. Then he asked me to tickle his back, I ended up doing it. It was funny. I may state that at no point neither of us where put in a situation on any sexual level. He kept putting his hand on me like in an affectionate way.

He gave me a big hug and kissed me on the cheek goodnight. He's been away for the weekend visiting his daughter and I've been busy too. I haven't text him and I haven't heard from him. We didn't mention another date so I'm not too sure? Guess it's a waiting game.

He is exactly my type and he seems like a lovely guy. Hes 10 years older than me, hes an aries and Im a sagitarrius.

What do we think??? xxx

[coli05anna00]

not sure about that. how much can you believe in what a person says on a first meeting? sounds like he was trying to butter you up to see if he could push you further get something else from you. i would leave the ball in his court definately. dont go chasing him. age has nothing to do with it and neither do star signs

[pinkchick06]

I really don't think he was trying to butter me up. I'm a very strong independant women and I know if a man's playing a game. It was nice because it was one of the omst relaxing dates I've ever been on,

[ummmm]

It's only Monday. Does he work?

[pinkchick06]

Yes he does work, he's a plumber fulltime. Yes hand massage it very relaxing. I can do indian head massages and hand massages but chose not to. I do like him but didn't give it my all as I did slightly think (only little bit) he was out fo my league in a way. x

[China Doll]

Why don't you just text him and ask if he fancies a coffee or something? What's the point in hanging around wondering when it could be sorted out pretty quickly.

[icemaiden]

Maybe he finds tickling and massaging a turn on....

[Arti]

helen, you filthy minx ;)
Maybe he feels that he doesn't want to be too pushy. Maybe he doesn't want to do all the running. You could give it a few days and then, if you haven't heard from him, text him. Not with an invite, but something like 'hi, just thinking about you. Thanks for the other night.' That way, the ball's in his court.

[pinkchick06]

See I was gona wait til wednesday to see if he calls or texts... Yeh I think he does like it :-) I know where only 3 days in but makes ya wonder why men wait? Test the water or something? I don't wana text for fear of looking too keen or desperate which neither I am x

[ummmm]

He's probably working then. Text him later....

[pa___ul3]

I'd say see it as a good first date, text him this evening if you've heard nothing just asking if he's had a good weekend. Some fellas don't like the whole "the men must take the lead" game, if it was casual and comfortable on the date then keep it like that in other communication.

[ummmm]

'wait til Wednesday' is what the youngsters used to do....

Just text him asking if he had a nice weekend.

[pinkchick06]

From a man's point of view you think I should text him first then??? Wouldn't that make me look desperate?

[coli05anna00]

i guess only you could sense if he is geniune or not. just be mindfull anyone can make themselves out to be anyone on line, and after one date things should be moving slowly so perhaps thats why you have heard nothing yet. relax hes not the only fish in the sea though if he doesnt get in contact.

[mccfluff]

i don;t think so, go for it

[ummmm]

Pinki....why would it make you look desperate? You met on a dating site....

[China Doll]

Texting someone asking for a coffee or how they went is hardly desperate or keen and puts the matter firmly in their court and you don't have to sit around wondering, I could never be ar$ed with any of that nonsense, I find it extremely tedious.

[pinkchick06]

Yeh I am relaxed about it which is a first to be honest? I normally get dead stressed out & end up being a moody bugger and ignore men but I've decided to change my whole out look as in don't rush. I think if men like small animals, you smother them then they'll run away x

[pa___ul3]

as a man, I'd say text him this evening. It also shows you're not into those silly games some girls insist on playing. As ummm said, you met on a dating website, he's said he's looking for a relationship, you both know you're looking for something so if you like him text him!

[pinkchick06]

Yeh I might do. Can't help thinking though I may look needy. I might leave it till wednesday x