relationship advice

[bikelover]

hello all. need some help please.
ryt, me and my g.f are 17, been together nearly 10months, and we are in love, we both know it:). we love being with eachother, and hate being apart. at the start of us, my brother said something hurtful to my g.f, who has been bullied her whole life and didnt need it from my own family. so she said some things bak. then he said some things to me who stupidly i then told her. sine then my parents got involved because they rli are patheti at things like this and over react. some things were said on an internet domain the other week and now my parents are taking it wayyy to seriously. they seem to us like they dont want us to be together but we wont let that happen. my parents have stopped me from sleeping at hers now all i can do is see her in the evenings when she gets back from work. then im told to come home. this is stupid. i need to stay with her, i need to lay next to her and be with her at night and in the morning. but if i do that, they will ground me, and not let me out. im 17, im independant, let me live my life!!! who knows what i should do?
i know i probs havnt explained this very well so feel free to ask questions about it.

[Bobbisox]

ha-ha-ha-ha
I thought so !

[quizmouse]

I dt normally bother wih this site but this caught my eye and quite worried me... I have 4 sons all really good lads but of course ent through very similar times, first love wanting to settle down with the first serious romance and trying to tell me I didnt understand.... I like mny others insisted on rules my house my rules so they had to come home at night and follow certain advice, they hated us for these rules at the time, Im not going back many years either only about 4 or 5 but these romances took their course and though they insisted it was special and they were 'in love' I saw the other side and knew they weren't as happy as they thought. eventually it all went pear shaped, sadly, as the girls, well some were really nice and i still see them occasionally, they moved on, and on and now are really settled with oher partners and they are 'really happy' and cant thank me enough for sticking to my guns and being strict since they realise that, had I allowed them to follow their hearts completely they may well be stuck in a relationship, which perhaps wasnt right and struggling to cope.
All i can say is hang in there take your parents advice, if its meant to be, a few months will make no difference, you will still be together, and have years ahead of you. Of course the other thing is to absolutely make sure you are behaving in a safe manner....i.e make sure the two of you do not become three, the last thing you need is a little extra to get in the way of things and it will not be fair on them either, just complicate things further... Rant over!

[LewPaper]

After trying to decypher your query all I can suggest is that you go back to school and listen to what's being said and benefit from it this time. Sounds like you've been spoilt and you're now confused because you can't get your own way, possibly for the first time in your life.
Develop a backbone, grow up and handle whatever life throws at you (like the rest of us have to do) rather than whimpering at the first hurdle.