How Do I Get Over Him?

[AngelNicole]

How do you get over someone you are in love with. I am 32 years old and in love with a man who is 15 years older than I am. We were friends for 2 years, and during the course of our 2 year friendship, I developed strong feelings for him, and decided one day to tell him how I felt about him. He told me that he and I could not have a relationship because of our age differences.

I think he just wasn't attracted to me appearance wise so he used our age differences as an excuse to prevent from hurting my feelings, because a year later, he got engaged to a woman who is only 4 years older than me. I was angry about it so I sent him a tweet on twitter that got him upset and he blocked me. I want to contact him and just apologize for what I said and just ask if we could try to repair our friendship, but I am afraid that he will just block me again or he won't respond back. What should I do? I understand he's with someone else now, but I don't see anything wrong with us just being friends. He has lots of other female friends. So I don't think there would be anything wrong with us having a friendship.

[Mamyalynne]

Angel, my only advice is to leave it - you could torment yourself for ever wondering why, no good will come of it.

[anneasquith]

sorry, hes not interested , no more tweets.keep your dignity,

[grasscarp]

He used the age bit to try and give a reason when he may have just felt your affair had run its course. As others have said it is best to walk away. Don't waste time trying to build bridges and become a friend. He knows where you are if he wants to find how you are.

[Old_Geezer]

You ought not go imagining he meant something he has given no indication of meaning. You are just dragging your mood down further without reason.

Even if he married another a little older than you a year later she may have beenn an exception, or the 4 year difference may have been enough. Try not to look for reasons to get angry, let it go. You can't have life go according to your desires all the time.

I'm unsurprised he blocked you if you seemed you were going to be hassle.

Maybe friends is not a good thing to push at present. It sounds like a clear break would be good for you both so you can repair and move on. Maybe in the far future if it is still of interest to you.

[chanel5]

This sounds very painful for you. You say you just want friendship but I think deep down you would be hoping for more, and this would cause you even more pain if you try to pursue it. Some friendships are doomed to end, and you must accept that, for the sake of your own peace of mind. Don't let this become obsessive for you. You need to tell yourself that you deserve better than living on the margins of someone else's life. There will be other people who will want your friendship, in a way that this man does not. Seek out those other people, try not to compare them unfavourably with this man, and gradually they will replace this man in your thoughts. Good luck for the future.

[vascop]

Yes, that tweet was a bit like electronic stalking - leave it out, it can only lead to trouble.

[AngelNicole]

@Vascop, you don't know what you are even talking about. I was not stalking him when I sent him that tweet.

[pusskin]

Keep your head up high angel, and walk away.

Some one who really cares could be waiting just around the corner.

[pixie373]

I agree with pusskin. I'm not sure you're ready to be friends, without hoping for more and it doesn't sound as though he wants to be friends either. I think you'll make it easier for yourself by avoiding him- at least for now.

[AngelNicole]

Thank you Pusskin and Pixie373 for your advice.

[DaisyNonna]

Let him go.