Sister In Law Told To Move Out At Weekends.

[geoff1057]

my sister in law lives at home with their 2 teenage girls 17, 19, she works full time, looks after house all the finances etc, her husband works away all week, stays in a bedsit. He comes home at weekends.He says he has met someone else at work and wants to be with her. However he still wants to come home at weekends to see his daughters, but he wants my sister in law to move out and stay with family when he comes home. She doesnt want to do this ,but to save arguments, rows , shouting, etc in front of the girls , she is doing. What rights has she. Can she tell him to do one . change locks etc.

[Chinajan]

She can tell him to do one, as you put it. But it wouldn't be advisable to change the locks. She could apply for an injunction on certain grounds to keep him away, but it would have to be based on more than rows I believe.

If the house is solely his, however, he could take legal proceedings to evict her altogether.

[FredPuli43]

No, of course he can't get her out. She has a perfect right to remain. If they divorce, whether or not he is the sole owner on the deeds or Land Registry, she still won't be thrown out though, in the event of divorce, the house might have to be sold immediately, in which case neither has the right to be there, obviously. She ought not to change the locks to exclude him. If she wants to exclude him she'll have to get a court order on the grounds that he is molesting her or some such ..

[geoff1057]

house is in both names.

[Slogger]

I would advise her to stay put and give him the good old British "Two-Fingered Salute".

[whiskeryron]

Tell him to make a noise like sage & onion & get stuffed.

WR.

[themorrigan]

If he wants to come into the family home to see their children he has a right to. but, and a big but, he has NO right to ask/tell her to leave. I would suggest to your SIL that she remain at the weekend and have him sleep ni a spare room or on the sofa. As for arguments and shouting - it takes 2 to argue -have her ignore him -her children are old enough to know what's going on, old enough to tell either parent to 'grow up'.

[Brenden]

Going by his track record, he would probably change the locks over the weekend visit then move his floozie in.

[Brinjal]

Never move out for any reason is my advice. If it comes to divorce and everything has to be sold then is the time to move but just because he wants to come home on the weekend why should she move out of her home. As advised let his sleep in spare room or couch if he wishes or he can find another bedsit.

[FredPuli43]

Well,the presumption is that she's entitled to half its value if it's sold. She has as much right to live there has he has. I never cease to be amazed,and I ought not be, as it is so common, by the sheer bullying arrogance of some husbands and by the fact that they can spout absolute nonsense like this and the poor innocent wife is worried by it.

[FredPuli43]

And , by the way, she has an absolute right to stop the other woman staying there, not that, I hope, there's any risk of that. If the husband prefers this woman , then she can tell him to go and live with her and face the consequences; a solicitor will soon tell him what they are, and he won't like it

[brandyrose]

Geoff, your sister in law probably cant bear to be anywhere near him right now and it is hard to blame her (and he is playing on this) and she will be very hurt and it will be really difficult for her to stand back and get a grip of her rights but she needs to.
Sorry about this I am very cynical by nature! - I smell a rat here. Her husband I feel may be wanting to influence the daughters and manipulate them and an outcome that suits him and his new partner. Put it this way - he isn't being considerate towards his wife now and I can see him pushing her around something rotten if he gets his way on this one. It is her decision and I respect this but can she stay and have a few friends around or a relative around for a bit of moral support over the weekends. It strikes me as abit odd that daughters that age would really want to spend the whole weekend with their dad anyway but I might be wrong.

[geoff1057]

Hes away all week living the life of a single man, but now moaning about paying bills to keep his wife and children in the house. SIL says its time to go legal and see a solicitor.