I've met a guy who I should finish the relationship with

[inamuddle1]

Hello. I know the answer to this question but I dont like it or want to do it.

I met a man, 1 1/2 years ago in a nightclub, he came up to me and we swapped facebooks. We started meeting, having sex. He told me he had a child of 7 years and an ex partner. I was find with it. He lives in the same country but a different city so we see each other every 2 months or so... I've fallen for this guy! I send him 20 text messages a day. Sometimes he replies and sometimes he doesnt. Recently he told me that his ex partner wants something with him again and that he thinks he can really make things work this time. Obviously i was dissapointed so I told him to never call or text me again. Immediatly he replied saying he would call me the next time he was in my city. We started again, flirting and he explained that he was in a situation with his ex, who now i think is not an ex... The last thing i want to do is get in the way of a family!!!! But i love this guy. I dont think he realises my feelings for him, its been 1 1/2 years now!!! We have amazing sex, but at the end of the day, it is just a sex relationship, and i'm bound to get hurt! But i'm young. I dont mind. He wants to go to swing clubs, i've never been before and am interested... Anyway, he sent me a message saying that I was his best, his sex partner and friend in sexual adventures and to be honest it made me happy. I dont know if i want more than this, i dont think i want him as a boyfriend, but im happy to have him as a sex partner... But obviously i have some feelings for him. I send him 20 messages a day. So anyway, he has not spoke to me for 2 days, he is ignoring my messages now. I dont know what he wants. I cant sleep at night thinking about him. My friends are all sick of hearing about him, and tell me that he's a dog!!! Which im sure he is, but i like him, suppose I cant even say he's my dog... he might be someone elses dog... OMG... I'm such an idiot for getting involved with this, this man i dont want to say good bye to, but feel i need to. He gives me excitement that I lack. But then when he doesnt respond to my messages I get so sad. We have spent 4 days messaging each other constant, and now nothing. I'm confused. Is he just fed up with the messages? Is it over? I dont know what to do. I'm totally addicted to this man. Excuse the spell errors,, I was typing this fast to get everything out... it's really bothering me. Of course I cant expect someone to message me every day, why do i need so much re-assurance... he's already said we are sex partners, already said he likes me... already said he has an ex partner that wants to get back together with him,,, i feel like sending him an email telling him that while he is seeing me, his relationship with his partner will never work. I know I'm going to get some stinking messages back for writing this, I need some sense spoke to me... I dont know his family, I expect I never will.. Should i message him and tell him its over. What will give me my dignity back? I've messed up, and I seem to have messed my head up too. I really like this guy!!! Please dont be too harsh on me... I'm 30 years old and I'm just looking for fun and adventure!!! Thanks

[inamuddle1]

I think he likes me, and I think I've been a total idiot... He obviously likes me. He keeps coming back. it's been 1 1/2 years... OMG OMG OMG... :D

[sherrardk]

To be fair, you sound like you need to grow up.

[pastafreak]

I bet he 'likes' you so much,he doesn't know a thing about you-as a person.

[inamuddle1]

your probably right, im a young 30 year old. Everyone always says that i need to grow up... I have a good job, work hard, educated but yes im young... so is my mother,,, i get it from her i think :) Cant have it all i suppose xx

[inamuddle1]

who knows, we are getting to know each other... he knows more about me than i know about him... Its not perfect, im fully aware of that.