Stumped...

[queenofmean]

....Ok here's the crack

I signed up to a Dating Website that I know a few of my friends use and now I'm starting to feel more at ease there. My problem is when I go to message someone I'd like to get to know I CANNOT for the life of me think of anything to say thats cool/casual/likely to get a response....any suggestions?

[DTCwordfan]

say what sort of food *and wine* you like as well.....no point going for a bum-warmer if you don't really like the cuisine.

[gness]

Hi DT. We have yet to meet though!

Example of Gness mishaps. Using one hand to reply to queen about men and dating. Using other to hold super-glued toy dog together to set.
Now have two fingers super-glued together. And that`s without meeting a man. Imagine me on a date queen!!

[queenofmean]

DT the wine part could be problematic...see nungate for further details.

I've had a few like that too TOWIE, instant scramble for the delete button.

Yeah there is BM - had a run in with one recently as he knows a girl i know and he said don't tell her about me...i wanted to know what he had to hide...glad she told me. Aww he's a sweetie though

[Barmaid]

Also think what attracts you in a profile. I had my best fun when I was slightly witty in a profile. The ones that used to bore me to tears were the ones that said "single bloke, 43, likes cosy evenings in, movies and hates cruelty to children and animals". I used to think "doesn't EVERYONE hate cruelty to children and animals? Is your specialist subject the bleedin obvious?" It tells you absolutely nothing, apart from the fact that the most interesting thing he can think of to say about himself is that he likes movies. The ones that made me laugh were the ones who would get a response from me.

[anneasquith]

LOL ( i inadvertently clicked on to a dating web site : ) :)

[tinkerbell23]

Think with the sites, keep the message simple, because the majority of folk will look at your pic and decide wether or not to reply! Xx

Good luck miss xx

[DTCwordfan]

"wanted, one good looking female who eats like a horse and drinks Guinness like a ship refuelling. Loves sex and getting herself stuck in unusual positions, usually when she is trying to multi-task which is when the accidents happen. Rich sense of humour required, experience in the building trade a benefit."

[queenofmean]

Yeah they kind of bore me too.

I have to admit good advice coming across :)

Thanks tink :) x

[DTCwordfan]

and "No applications from Plumbers and their Mates either, their seals are usually blown anyway."

[gness]

Hmmmm. Perhaps we have met DT.

[Lakitu]

Agree with Barmaid! I said as much in my profile about being sick of reading the obvious LOL.

Also agree that the ones that made me laugh got the response from me.

I didn't keep my message simple (sorry Tinkerbell LOL). I figured if I had a little to say about several of my interests that that was more likely to spark a conversation than the pair of us sending stifled messages. At least the guy had several options to choose from as openers - he could delete as appropriate of his interests if you like.

I also felt that yes, people will look at your profile picture and make a decision from there as to whether they're interested, but the only decsion they're making from that (if they're not a player) is whether to open your profile and read what you have to say. Their next decision will be based on those two.

There's nothing worse than seeing a hottie profile and reading, yet again, that he likes long walks on the beach and cosy nights in - 1 way ticket to yawnsville and move swiftly on LOL.

[queenofmean]

Everything taken into consideration.....Will keep you all informed as to how it all pans out :)

PS BM mum was asking how ASBO is doing

[tinkerbell23]

Ive seen a few and when someone emailed me a shpeel i was like GTF hahaha.....simple!!

;0> do keep me posted ....xx

[Barmaid]

Mr ASBO is much improved thank you. I think he's had his wings clipped a bit because he has become ever so slightly clingy now. He'll snap out of it. Thankfully - no lasting effects. Although he doesn't understand why he can't go back to the diet of king prawns and chicken broth.................

[queenofmean]

Jeezo Tinks thats what I'd think too. But I will do :)

Aww thats good to hear, bless his wee paws

[Sqad]

Lakitu....OK you have won me over....i will give you a go........"well educated smart, witty gentleman who likes the fine things of life will be prepared for a dinner meeting. Sex is not obligatory, but you will be begging for it by the end of the evening. an evening that you will never forget"

Not too forward I hope?

[Lakitu]

I agree with the email shpeel, but not about keeping the profile simple x

I'm off home, good luck whatever happens x

[Lakitu]

Sounds remarkably like my own :p

[tinkerbell23]

No not the profile simplr,just the original message ...xxx