Friends/Fairweather friends

[Dris]

At which point would you determine a friend had switched to a fairweather friend?

Has it happened to you?

Just curious -saw the term and wondered........

[boxtops]

Having identified myself on doc's pole dancer clip earlier, I wonder why anyone at all would want to be MY friend, crabbit old toad that I can be.... ;-)

[ttfn]

Strewth - I have to trawl through all of doc's posts now ?

Dris, sorry - back to your OP.

I have put myself out for 'friends' in their time of need - to quite a level. When their situations improved I was relegated to the back row. Mind you, they only get the 1 shot at doing that to me. I prefer the straight talking approach and have asked why - I have had enough bull excrement to fertilize Kew Gardens

[Dris]

ttfn...im totally understanding your drift.....anyway we live learn and evolve and I hope to remain selfless -minor blips can only make you more steadfast in your own resolve -that is -get on with it yourself and dont bl00dy even think anyone is gonna give a sht when it comes to you :)) x♥

[ttfn]

Aye Dris, but I do know that I have 1 true friend who would never let me down, God bless her ♥

[ummmm]

Good friends always give a Sugar when it's about 'you'. I really learnt who my good friends were when my Dad got sick. One friend came round everyday after work to check on me to make sure I was ok. If I was he'd just stay 5 minutes...If I wasn't he'd to stay to comfort me.

That's the one who now has a psycho GF....

[welshlibranr]

I have one very close friend, I can tell her anything, and she me, I would do anything for her, and she would for me, I have a few other quite good friends, but the two of us are very close, and always look out for each other no matter what!.............

[DTCwordfan]

Illness and family crises separate the wheat from the chaff.

[ummmm]

It certainly does DT...and we had loads of that in a short space of time.

[DTCwordfan]

sorry to hear that ummmm - I have had my fair share, especially of the latter and the adage applies. Also, the other way around two girl friends in trouble, one with biploarism+depression and been sectioned a number of times, and the other two bouts of cancer - however both on the mend......chemso (now over) plus some new wonder drug in the latter called Evastin and coming in at £2k a month......

[ummmm]

It's ok.....now anyway. It's hard...I don't know anyone who's been in a similar situation so I can only hope that I'd be as supportive as some have been to me. My OH especially....we were just mates when it all started. He spent the first 2 years of our relationship rubbing my back....

I must say as well...we've been having a hard time recently and Dris has always been at the end of an email to comfort me. She's been a great help and I thank her for that xx

[Dris]

ummmm...always here- same as you are for me x (I didnt know she had posted as we are private usually-she's lifted me by posting this -some cookie she is ta ♥x:))
Thanks all for sharing i'll just be wary in future -one bad apple etc etc (I know I come across as flippant,hard hearted etc -its just a coping mechanism)

As I was everyone (drat some might say...:))

[ummmm]

;-) xx

[joko]

yes, it mean what it says...they come to you when they feel like it...when its suits them and when they know its will be a fun thing...not when you need them...or when it will be a sad depressing reason...like a funeral or when they know you have just split up with someone, been mugged, are ill or lost your job/baby/car/friend/parent etc

they use your friendship and company when it makes them happy, and expect to use you as a soundboard for their woes too

but when its their turn to actually act like a friend for you, you dont see them for dust

[ummmm]

Well said Joko...that is exactly what they are.