Would you want to know?

[4getmenot]

My blokes mum left when he was young, he has never really wanted anything to do with her. His younger brother has seen her a few times as they've grown up. Anyway I went out drinking saturday night and bumped into his brother and he started pouring his heart out about his mum and how he wish he'd done what my bloke did and got her well out of his life. He also told me she had had another child but not to tell my bloke that he has another bro or sister. I havent mentioned it to him as when I have said in the past about her maybe having other children and he has said he doesnt care if she has, but would you want to know?

[4getmenot]

I usually always tell my bloke everything. Him and his bro dont get on and I get the feeling his bro told me to see if I'd tell him because he cannot do it himself. Dont think I want to do the dirty work for him.

[sherrardk]

PS - just read my last post thing and wanted to clarify that my husband's dad is 86, not my husband!

[4getmenot]

yer yer

[society]

I won't regard telling someone they have another brother a dirty thing. Having family is good.

lol Sherrard, it was clear.

[ummmm]

If he won't be bothered then tell him...

Society...yeah, they both sound really nice. I wonder if 4gets actually stays awake though
:-)

[karenmac60]

4get - poor choice of words on my part. I didn't mean take it out on you as in shout at you or whatever, but he may resent you for it, and sometimes when someone is laid back they bottle things up. It would be a pity if something like this soured what seems to be a really good relationship. If you choose not to tell him you have to make sure you don't blurt it out after a few drinks or something though, cos the longer you've known and said nothing the harder he may take it. Whatever you choose to do, good luck x

[4getmenot]

Dint mean he/she was a dirty thing just the whole issue. and ummmm, he does tend to stay up and sleep on couch at weekends, but he's laid back in mind but a very busy bloke and good handyman :-)

[ummmm]

Ginge tends to be ok until I feed him. Like your bloke very laid back though. In your situation I'd tell him. Chances are he won't have much of a reaction. You have to think, what if his sibling appears out of the blue and introduces themselves?

[society]

Haha Ummm. I'm so glad you have a sense of humour.

When 4Get described her blokes attitude and how laid-back he is, I thought of your Ginger. ;-)

[4getmenot]

if the sibling appeared i never knew a thing, as i said was that drunk i cant remember :-) they must know so why havnt they made contact. Although could be a toddler for all i know.

[welshlibranr]

4get, I would just tell him what I know anyway, whatever happens then, you have a clear concience, you are bing honest with him!........that's what counts in the end!..No secrets!...............

[4getmenot]

but thats just it, with the way he is i dont think im hiding it, plus i dont have any other secrets from him. As i said 'i never knew'

[tigwig]

Well if it was me I couldn't not tell my OH. What would happen further down the line if he does find out and then someone tells him you were told? You would then be lying to him if you said you couldn't remember being told. I personally don't think its worth the possible aggro it may or may not cause if you don't say anything but thats my opnion, its your call and your relationship!

[4getmenot]

yep am pretty sure it wouldnt get to that stage

[chattykathy]

Would your bloke be annoyed to find out his brother had kept something from him? And what if the brother told him he had told you sometime further down the line? I think you should tell him.