Envy

[queries]

Can anyone give me some tips on not getting envious and wound up by other people when they go on about their houses/cars/holidays etc etc - I can get to work feeling on top of the world and have to listen people going on about their company car isn;t big enough or their latest house moeve etc etc and on a bad day I can feel so depressed and wonder why I bother carrying on.

[RainbowPrism]

You need to work out what triggers these feelings ? These 'other people' are they close friends, family, colleagues ? What is your 'status' - as in do you own your own home, or live in a flat ? Do you drive and/or own a car ? Is it because these people have things that you would like / or unable to afford ? I have a friend who gets like this - he has just gone bankrupt, rents, cant drive, BUT has a job (which he is thankful for!), however every penny he earns is accounted for....and he does get very down about it....perhaps Im not explaining this very well...alot of people do live beyond their means these days...more often than not....

[boxtops]

I agree with karen, people who are unhappy in some part of their lives buy things to try to make it feel better (I know, I used to do it myself). Keeping going on about it is trying to impress other people about how good their lives really are. We go on holiday a couple of times a year but we scrimp and save all through the rest of the year so we can afford it - I wouldn't dream of flashing about it in front of people who are even more hard up than we are. Don't be envious - you probably have more than they do, less debt, happier life, not such good health - all sorts. Be glad for the things you do have!

[Dris]

On the other hand some people have worked damned hard for what theyve got and have never had anything handed to them on a plate so i'm always very pleased for them.If theyre happy then i'm delighted -honestly.
I dont harbour any envious feelings for any material object anyone has- I do in honesty envy people who have 'things' money cant buy- without elaborating.Not a pleasant trait I have to say but im being truthful.