Dris - that is my only reason for scanning them daily - it is not idle curiosity. On one occasion I saw the obit of a close friend's mother. I had less than 24 hours notice of the funeral, but took the day off work, arranged a floral tribute which I collected and delivered to the undertakers just in time. When my friend saw me at the funeral she was so pleased I was there and when I asked her why she hadn't let me know she said she didn't want to upset me. I would dread being in the position you found yourself in, I feel for you x