help needed from a kind forum member that won`t think me stupid

[lorri24601]

in what section would i post a quesion about a wedding present ??? thank you in advance x

[oldgrape]

chatterbank as it's were most people go, or shopping

[lorri24601]

thank you :-) im going to a wedding (no suprise there lol) its a friend i have known for about 8 ish years, we became friends in the school playground when kids where younger and stayed friends, not close but get on really well on the odd occasion we meet up, they have asked for cash as a present,so my question is how much ???? i was thinking �50 but does that sound mean, or shouldi buy a small present and add some cash, im soooo confused , really not sure what to do

[oldgrape]

fifty sounds too much to me lol but that would be more than enough especially if ur not very very close friends

[lorri24601]

thank you, this is why im asking lol dont want to look mean but also dont want to look like im trying to out do anyone, its so difficult, why could they not just ask for a toaster !!!! lol

[888sally888]

Some people have a wedding list - if they have one just choose off there.

�50 sounds generous to me!

[terambulan]

I'm always amazed to see the expensive dress of guests at weddings when their presents are mean. I think it should be the other way round.

Newly-weds need money to start their lives together and I would give them as much as I could spare (or would have spent on a new outfit) and wear something cheaper/borrowed/hired.

[lorri24601]

hi sally . i asked for wedding list but was told cash was what they wanted as they are really skint ( both have ex`s and kids, some living with them) they have lived together for 4 years so have all household things they need , i did think about phoning local restuarant and saying i would book and pay for a meal for them while my hubby did driving for them and i did babysitting but im not sure if that constitutes a wedding present or not lol

[rcl1]

For one of my friends weddings we all chipped in for a Honeymoon suite in a local hotel and secretly arranged for their families to have their kids for the night. They were made up with it and it only cost us about �30 each (including extras to decorate the room for them like ballons and rose petals etc). If you know oithers that are going, it could be an idea to chip in for something like this - unless they are gettinmg married in a hotle in which case please ignore this advice.

[888sally888]

Cash seems so impersonal somehow.

When I got remarried 2 years ago we both had lots of stuff as well as 4 kids between us and just asked for John Lewis vouchers but only if anyone asked what we would like.

We bought a TV with the vouchers and the cash was put towards Pickles the puppy!!

When we wrote thank you's we sent photos of her and amused a lot of people. She's here with me on the bd now and I couldnt wish for a better present!

[lorri24601]

thank you thats a really good idea rcl1 , maybe i can phone her sister and make that suggestion ( she would probably want to have the kids for the night, but if not i can :-) ) i really want to do something nice rather than practical if i can as they really deserve it :-)

[mrs.chappie]

Hey lorri, that sounds like a fantastic present to me! I'd be chuffed to bits if someone would do that for me.

[lorri24601]

aww sally , pickles sounds lovely and thats the sort of present i want togive , something that has meaning :-) its not the cost .its the pleasure that they get from it that matters

[888sally888]

I agree - would be horrible if your �50 went towards a Tesco shop!!