My Friend Is Transferring To Another School.

[Eva123]

I recently moved to a new school and met a girl there. We talked to her for a while. I soon realized that she was the person I would like to be friends with. But I'm very shy about talking to other people, so I listened more. Because of this, I know more about her than she knows about me.
I recently found out that she is transferring to another school in another city. I can not calm down. We weren't close enough to still communicate. But I really want to continue communicating with her!
In addition, I am very afraid to talk to someone, even if I know this person well.
I do not know what to do. I'm scared to even text her on social media. Please give me advice on what to do?

[Barmaid]

Why are you scared? What is the worst that can happen? The worst that can happen is that she is awful to you and you never speak again. Whilst that might upset you a little to start with, you will come to realise that she was not worthy of your friendship, but heck at least you tried. So that's the worst that can happen.

Do nothing - you will unlikely never hear from her or speak to her again. You might regret not having tried.

Text her/message her - wish her the best of luck in her new school but say you would like to keep in touch with her and perhaps meet up for coffee or something. You may never hear from her or speak to her again, but at least you tried. On the other hand, she may message back and say "hi, thanks. Yeah I'd love to keep in touch. I'll be back in town on (insert date) and perhaps we could do coffee then?"

And also seek some advice to work on your confidence in social situations. You have all the tools, it is just a case of using them in the right order.

You cannot change someone else's feelings.

[Canary42]

You should send her a brief text, wishing her good luck on her move but finishing with "I'll miss you".

She may well reject you of course, but that happens in life and early experience of it helps deal with it on subsequent occasions.

Good luck.

[Canary42]

///But I'm very shy about talking to other people, so I listened more. Because of this, I know more about her than she knows about me. ///

Nothing wrong with that - most people like a good listener. Just try to engage with some of the things you've learnt about her.

As an alternative to my earlier suggestion (and Barmaid's excellent advice) you could wait until a week or two after her move then text her and ask how she is settling in. This will perhaps help to polarise your relationship depending on how she replies - and if she's reluctant then I'm afraid you really will have to bite the bullet and abandon the friendship (but it may never happen - she may welcome a voice from the past as she struggles to settle in a new situation which can be a significant challenge).

[Treacle71]

Just text and wish her all the best and see how she replies.