Have You?

[sandra4444]

Anyone taken in a Ukrainian refugee yet.
If so how you getting on, any ups and downs.

[choux]

You might have worded that better...
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10843125/Ukrainian-refugee-22-ran-man-29-took-blames-two-faced-wife.html

[bookbinder]

It's a risky thing to do.

[sandra4444]

There seems very little news on the subject. Or is it a case of it not really happening at all?

[naomi24]

Oh it’s happening. Several Ukrainian children have recently joined our local schools. And better still the other children are welcoming them and making friends with them.

[Bobbisox1]

It’s happening here too, sadly our age and the small house we have was against us ,too old to take a young person and house not big enough to take a family so we didn’t apply

[gness]

So far it's going well in the village. One man is hosting eight and I hear it's working out fine.
Friends have taken in a mum and two children. Done privately and the husband in Ukraine grilled our friend thoroughly before allowing his family to leave him. He phones for updates daily. They have their own spacious accommodation but are joining their hosts when they wish to. Mum is working in their business and children settled well at school.

My only involvement is a weekly coffee, cake, crafting and "chat" in the book shop with some of the thirty ladies and children who have been given apartments here.
I am amazed at the resilience of these ladies. They join in with village activities and remain so cheerful and pleasant despite what is happening to husbands, sons, brothers.
Could I cope so well with suddenly having to go to a country where I don't speak the language, have nothing and family and friends at home are in great danger? I really doubt it.

People are people. Not every situation will work. But most will.

[ichkeria]

This is a situation fraught with peril.
You don’t have to be paranoid to see the issues with lots of helpless woman and kids looking for somewhere to live in a foreign country.

[ichkeria]

“Ukrainian refugee, 22, who ran off with the British man, 29, who took her in”

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at that.

[sandra4444]

Whats he going to do when she goes back home?

[ichkeria]

I don't know the situation intimately, but here's a 29 year old bloke taking an attractive young 22 year old woman into his house and then branding her a "home wrecker"
On the face of it, that seems a bit ironic.

[youngmafbog]

It wasnt just him that took her in. He was living with his partner and mother of their children as I read it.

So yes, in this case a home wrecker. Not that he is any better to letting his little head rule his big head. Surname wasnt Johnson was it?

However it seems to be an isolated case. Most seem to be settling in as well as can be hoped.

[Redhelen72]

My neighbours have closed their airbnb and instead allowed a ukranian family to have it.
Unfortunately since we have moved we no longer have the space otherwise we would have done.

[barry1010]

I would if I were not caring for my two vulnerable oldsters.

[ichkeria]

I may be being unfair, but I refuse to believe that that bloke was entirely blameless. As I said before, there are a lot of potential pitfalls in this and there have been numerous cases of blokes advertising
themselves on Facebook to single women, etc.

We are, to answer the actual question, keeping ourselves free and available for our friends to come should the need arise.
On yop of that I am not sure I could have faced the bureaucracy involded in taking in an "unknown"

[Ken4155]

Ich, the bloke says she was the first to respond on FB. The first he liked the look of, most probably. Took him all of ten days to realise he was in love with her!

[naomi24]

//I may be being unfair, but I refuse to believe that that bloke was entirely blameless.//

Of course he's not blameless. It takes two to tango but it's happened and it's for them to sort out.

[barry1010]

I suppose the refugee got on better with the husband because he can speak the same language, whereas his wife could not.
Appalling behaviour from both sides, though

[Khandro]

There's always the unexpected, (as Jack Hawkins said in 'The Bridge on the River Kwai)
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/18641255/ukrainian-refugee-ran-off-married-dad-love/

[Khandro]

Sorry, hadn't read the posts properly.

[douglas9401]

No, I haven't.