A Neice

[jennyjoan]

Last night I was contacted by a cousin (whom I only met once in my lifetime) - she phoned me - don't even know how she got my number but that is by the by.

She told me that a daughter that my deceased brother had about 50 years was able to contact her via DNA and contacted her on her laptop asking her would she (cousin) know anything about her father which cousin never even met my brother in her life as he moved and died in London.

I was absolutely stunned by this because whilst my dad had 4 bros and they had loads of children (my cousins) we (cousins) never bothered throughout our lives - just one of those things. Anyway this cousin has asked my permission if I could sorta be in contact with this niece re her father (sorta Long Lost Family). Niece wants to know all about her father and to be honest since he moved away at 18 I don't have much to tell her either.

I am in a bit of quandary as I honestly don't know whether to get involved leading to other questions cos this niece has about another 7 or 8 cousins she wouldn't know about.

Would you allow the contact take place or leave it alone. This relationship between my brother and her mother couldn't go further as they were Catholic and Protestant and her father was very angry about the relationship. Any advice necessary. Thanks

[AuntPG]

I had a cousin who died in his forties leaving two small children and an ex wife who refused to tell the kids much about their father. The ex left the area almost straight after the funeral and we heard no more. Years later I got contacted by the daughter, now an adult, through FB, and she was more than grateful for the stories I told her of what her dad was like as a teenager and the trouble we got into. It was nice to give her a balanced view of what her father was like rather than her mother, the ex wife's opinion.