How Do I Get Out Of This?

[JaymeImes]

I’ve been really depressed lately and I wanna start feeling better but I can’t get back in the swing of things. With stress between homework, school, therapy, and home. I haven’t had time to myself and I’ve been really on edge. How can I be my happy self again and stop being down all the time? My family’s been suffocating me for a while now.

[JaymeImes]

Sorry I think I may have put this question in the food and drink category. I meant the family category.

[bobbinwales]

// With stress between homework, school, therapy, and home.//

Maybe you need a break from one of them. Is the therepy not helping?

[JaymeImes]

No it’s just making it harder to get alone time because I’m not allowed to talk to my therapist 1 on 1 cause my guardians are always in there so I can’t really spill my guts out to her

[tamborine]

Be thankful youre not sick & locked in 4 walls with no outside family & visitors except medics, and tied to IVs.

[andy-hughes]

Hello JaymeImes,

I am sorry to read that you are suffering during this difficult time, but there are strategies that can help you.

Starting with your therapist - I would suggest that if you are not able to speak honestly because one of your guardians is present, that you ask the therapist if you can see him or her alone, since the idea of therapy is a level of honesty which you are not able to experience.

It should be taken as read that anything said to your therapist is confidential, and not shared with anyone without your knowledge and consent, but check on that before you go forward.

We are all spending far too much time indoors, and getting out for a walk is crucial to someone in your position. You should aim at a minimum thirty-minute walk, alone, at least three times a week.

If you can, take some favourite music with you to listen to, and make sure you are being given adequate time and space to be alone at home to relax doing what you want to reading, games, chatting with friends, or just relaxing and doing nothing at all.

If you put these changes into effect, you will start seeing a difference pretty fast, and hopefully your mood will lift enough for you to enjoy life more than you are at present.

Come back and let us know how you get on.

Take care.

A.

[margarettom]

What a great answer andy-hughes. Very thoughtful. I hope you get some feedback on it.

[andy-hughes]

margarettom - // What a great answer andy-hughes. Very thoughtful. I hope you get some feedback on it. //

Thank you very much - appreciate your kind words, and I also hope we get some response from the OP.

[JaymeImes]

Thank you andy-hughes. That was an amazing answer and I will try out some of those. Thank you again.

[andy-hughes]

You are most welcome.

Please come back and let us know if the strategies work - especially your solo conversations with your therapist.

There is no point in you attending sessions where you are being prevented from being utterly honest with your therapist - it entirely defeats the object of the exercise.

Your guardian(s) may feel upset at being excluded, but therapy is about making your feelings addressed, not theirs, and hopefully they have the sense to see that.

If you are old enough for therapy, you are old enough to exercise your right to privacy - so hopefully you will be able to do so moving on.

Stay in touch.

A.