Christmas Is Different For The Childless

[rowanwitch]

Something missing and it always seemed pointless bothering once I knew I wouldn't have children, then reinforced by then not having grandchildren., All you have left is effectively a weekend where you are expected to fit in with other people's idea of fun.
So I know that for some Christmas is very much about what could have, or should have been and always will be.

[rowanwitch]

Thank you, but as a non Christian I wouldn't be qualified anyway.
Nice thing to say and it is appreciated.

[gness]

Oi!!! I spent years helping a mother who didn't want and had no time for me. I thought that's what this part of my life was meant to be.
Then I met Dave.
I'm not saying you'll meet someone, though you could....I am saying that there really is life after looking after a not very nice mother, Rowan. And you're much younger than me...x

[rowanwitch]

I think I used up my luck with the last one,

[gness]

No. I adored MrG and as far as I was concerned I could never meet anyone like him or be as happy with anyone. I was wrong... and it's not luck. It's who you are....and I've met you once....you're quite bonkers but a great person to be with so we shall see.... :-)

Am I being bossy?...x

[rowanwitch]

We will see, but my fortune when told has always said three, so that was Mark, Teri and the little fat git.

[Barsel]

Rowan, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling down in the dumps, and it probably doesn't help to hear people say they are in the same situation as you, but whenever my Mum used to feel like this, she would always think of people who were worse off than her,and that would help her. This Christmas will be worse than any other and there will be loads of people having to spend it without their family even if they have family.Even after Christmas, please remember that not every family has fun at the weekend and those with children and grandchildren won't be looked after by them in their old age. Can I just ask you one thing? If you are feeling depressed, please phone your GP (not sqad!) to see if they can help you.x

[rowanwitch]

I am already on medication, and you know something I really don't want to think about those worse off because part of the way my depression manifests is with massive guilt that I can't make things right. BTW it's advice on the recognised list of what not to say to someone who is depressed. I know it was meant well.

Just spoke to mum who was pretty lucid and today grasped the whole covid thing and was relieved she had an excuse to keep my bossy younger sister at bay

[Barsel]

Sorry Rowan, I didn't know you have depression and are already on medication. I thought it was just a question of you feeling a bit down in the dumps which is a different thing altogether.Can I just say then that I hope you manage to get through this and that you feel better in time.

[rowanwitch]

It's ok honest, I always plummet this time of year, it's grieving for the ones I lost too,

[Patsy33]

My sister feels lonely at this time of year. She doesnt have children. Lives in Canada. She does have a good friend who visits her most weekends for company. I wished she lived closer.
Hope you can feel relaxed and find something you enjoy doing, to occupy your mind. Best wishes.

[rowanwitch]

I am going to stuff myself with posh cheeses, and binge watch all three series of lie to me seen them before with Dave and I think I want to see what I missed first time around.

[Patsy33]

Good for you!
I like Tim Roth. Might watch it myself sometime. Looks good.

[rowanwitch]

It is very good, lots of black humour