Advice Of A Personal Matter

[Ric.ror]

My son had just found out his best friends girlfriend - who both live in Canada - has been unfaithful on a recent trip home to Scotland. There is a ‘video’ and it’s doing the rounds
Should he tell his friend or wait until he finds out
Apparently someone else has given my son a ‘you tell him or I shall’ ultimate

[tinkerbell23]

I would tell my friend xx

[-Talbot-]

That's a true friend, Pixie.

[Cloverjo]

How is it 'doing the rounds'? Between old schoolmates or viral on the internet? Best to say nothing unless your son knows for sure. And even then probably best to say nothing.

My friend still occasionally reminds me of a time when her boyfriend was cheating. I'd heard rumours but didn't know anything for sure so didn't say anything to her. She says I should have told her. I still think I was right to keep quiet.

[choux]

If I may say so, I think this is a strange question. What does your son think he should do? Has he asked for your advice?

You talk of his best friend - is this reciprocated and does he truly value the friendship?

Whatever your son decides to do he will have to live with it.

I am with tinkerbell on this one.

[Mamyalynne]

May I swing this round a bit, as his Mother, what do you think?

You obviously know your own Son well and maybe the close friend too.

My first instinct would be to step well away from the rumour mill and be ready to support my friend when things hit the fan and he needs me.

[-Talbot-]

Pixie?
ooops

Tinks

:0/

[spathiphyllum]

There is a video...

I’d send it to him.

[spathiphyllum]

What comes around goes around just best hope it don’t pick anything up on the way.

[spathiphyllum]

Like an STD

[kvalidir]

You would really want to receive a video of your other half having sex with someone else Spath? I think that would be the crassest way of handling this delicate situation imaginable. Also what if he forgives her? Then the fact that you've done that will cause weirdness between you and your friend.

[Hopkirk]

How detailed is the video?

[ummmm]

I'd stay out of it. Telling the truth is not always thanked.

The only time I'd tell is if I was asked directly.

[david small]

People that deliver bad news are never really appreciated. Shoot the messenger....

[ummmm]

Exactly, David, if they stay together you risk becoming the enemy.

[Ric.ror]

This really is a very difficult one - I personally believe that honesty is the best policy and he was there when another close friend was in a similar situation but this is hampered by the distance and also he didn’t ‘spill the beans’ last time