How Long Before A Man Flirting With A Woman Is Considered To Be Sexual Harassment?

[dave50]

You may all laugh but I'm not so sure, especially if the chap is a little socially awkward and perhaps makes an ill judged comment. We are heading for a soulless boring world where interaction between the sexes is kept to an absolute minimum in case some perpetually offended type gets upset.

[jno]

I always hold doors open for people of either gender. They always say thank you. And I say thank you if they do it for me.

I suppose I just don't move among the vulgar people others on this thread seem to mix with. Comes of living in well-mannered London, I expect.

[Barmaid]

Quite Mamy.

We are not talking about a basic courtesy here, TWR. We are talking about sexual harrassment.

Why dont you and Dave meet up for a beer (make sure you go to the bar, mind) and you can be perpetually offended together. Make sure you take Mrs TWR and Mrs Dave so it cant be said that you are friends with Dorothy. Heaven forbid.

[ummmm]

When I'm with my OH I never open a door or carry a bag. He does it because thats what his parents taught him to do.

He's my equal.

[TWR]

You have taken my comment totally wrong BM, Some women are kicking off about Woolf Whistles, so that now can not be done without getting into trouble, so Is this telling the younger males Flirting has to be done by email / FB or the likes, I do have manners & always will have manners, what I'm saying, if this " If it ever comes about by some women/s libber, no doubt they will pick up on it, anything goes. does that make myself clear.

[Barmaid]

Well no, not really, you are as clear as mud.

Wolf whistles are not really flirting. Wolf whistles are just a neanderthal way of men showing their appreciation for a woman (normally, although I accept it can be vice versa). I can honestly say I have never been offended by a wolf whistle, but I accept that some might be.

Flirting is again something quite different and has been explained earlier on the thread.

Basic courtesy such as holding a door open for those behind you; offering a seat etc etc is a world away from those things.

I know there are some people on here that hark back to the "good old days" where men were gentlemen and women were ladies but given that common sense wasnt on the curriculum then (from some of the posts on here) I am not sure the good old days were so very good.

[TWR]

Thanks for the compliment, I will return it.

[Barmaid]

Please do so, I shall await in anticipation.

[jackthehat]

It's no wonder we are in the state we are in presently when blokes can't tell the difference between a little harmless flirting and letting the door shut in your face.....

[-Talbot-]

I think some men would get offended if a woman opened a door for them.

[sunny-dave]

I'll hold the door open for anyone - but be aware that (whether you are male/female/other) you will get a very loud passive/aggressive "thank you" should you fail to acknowledge my niceness ...

[Barmaid]

No no, SD. Much better is "I'm sorry?"

And when they say "I didnt say anything"

You respond "oh, I could have sworn you said thank you".

[sunny-dave]

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