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Bobbisox1 | 17:19 Thu 24th Sep 2020 | ChatterBank
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My friend who lost her husband 4 weeks ago , they had no family at all so me and mine are their surrogates,we love her dearly but now as we are in Lockdown here we can't go to hers only to get a shopping list and to leave The shopping on her doorstep , my daughter does this acting as her support but today listening to her crying on the phone has broke my heart, not only is she grieving For her soulmate but she is very isolated through this lockdown here, I feel so sorry for her, she is 78 and cries she can't cope ,this is another unseen horror of the virus
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That is so sad and so frustrating for you who wants so much to help.
Bobbisox, would the 'support bubble' option be valid for your friend? I think it's designed for people living alone, for whatever reason, and allows them to link up with another household - you and your husband, for example. We have a similar scheme in Scotland and I know a few people - solitary people - who have benefitted from it.
Bobbisox, not sure where you stay, but the following information is applicable in Scotland. Horrible situation for you all to be in at this time. Hope something can be worked out.

"Inside people’s homes
Do not meet people from any other households in your home or another person’s home socially, unless they are in your extended household.

An extended household is one where two households have joined together to form a single household. An extended household can be formed by a person who lives alone - or only with children under 18. They and another household of any size can agree to form an extended household. An extended household can also be formed by a couple who do not live together, and their children.

These rules apply to everyone, including children. Children whose parents do not live in the same household can move between homes.

These restrictions apply to social visits inside houses only.

You can go into someone’s house to provide essential care and support such as childcare and delivering shopping to a vulnerable person. Tradespeople can also go into people’s homes to carry out work and repairs."
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My daughter is already in my friends bubble and she is from a different household to me
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I'm in The Map of the NE of England
The messages are so mixed as to be non-sensical.
Support bubbles...no more than 6 (unless its in a pub, club, church, cinema, shop, bowling club, funeral, wedding, grouse shoot ad infinitum)
''this is another unseen horror of the virus''
NO, This is another horror of a government that's scrambling round in the dark.
Do whats right.
I understand that theres a virus, I dont understand how we can neglect our loved ones and those that we care about, I really dont?
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Nailit we can only go in a six if we are all members of the same household ( that's in a pub) not inside or outside a home
If it were me ... I’d break this rule! Yes rules are their to protect us BUT this is a diff circumstance. I’d personally make sure I had mask, clean hands etc etc but I’d be visiting here. I know many would say that is irresponsible but her mental health is important too!
ive worn masks, sanatized, washed my hands, socially distanced, etc.
But theres no way on Gods Earth am I going to deny my mum from common human contact with her loved ones.

Otherwise lets all just die now. Life without human contact with loved ones is werthless anyway
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Thanks eve and Nailit and the others I've got some thinking to do here
//but her mental health is important too!//
And theres the exemption ;-)
Its bloody rediculous.
Bobbie
Just do what you need to do anyway,
The 'Covid Police' dont exist.
Not got the resources.

I don't know why you worry so much Bobbi. Instead of coming on here telling everybody about it, why don't you just go and see her?? If you're worried, mask up. Do you really think there is a difference to seeing her now to when you used to go and visit her every day a few weeks ago, just because Boris has said so ?!
Totally agree with ilovemargie and others who say just go and see her. The risk to both of you is miniscule. Just blinking well go!
Although as a counterpoint I was bereaved just before lockdown and it's been a godsend in that I haven't had to see anyone!
Its not about you though is it bednobs?
Bit much APG!
If you say so sherradk - whatever makes you feel happiest.
APG - Considering how much you are on here, I would have thought you would know better.
Sherradk For Funks Sake wind it in and go spoil someone else's thread. Bobbi is upset about all this and doesn't need the likes of you using it as a platform to 'have a go' Grow up!

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