Lack of respect.......

[joeluke]

.......shown by children/youngsters to adults these days is appalling

The way they talk to their parents and other adults is really bad (TV has a lot to answer for because it happens on a lot of programmes, especially soaps)

I would never have dared to talk to my father like they do, otherwise I'd have felt the back of his hand and spent the rest of the day in my room

Lack of discipline is the reason, a smack when we were naughty/cheeky never did us any harm and taught us not to do it again

My 8 yr old son is cheeky at times but I can't discipline him because his mother is dead against it (I'm not talking beating him black and blue, just a smack on the leg!) - and then she wonders why he's cheeky, it's because they are allowed to get away with it

When I was at school there were teachers we were scared of and wouldn't dare get on the wrong side of, but these days kids disrespect/swear at teachers and get away with it

Lack of respect in younger life leads to the same in adult life

[Old_Geezer]

Partly every generation thinks this. That said over the years there was been a trend to let behaviour standards slip. It may be my imagination but But I find there is more lack of respect betrween adults these days too.

Yes more discipline in the home and schools would work wonders for the future, but I'm afraid a society gets the environment it chooses.

[dothawkes31]

Tell me about it, it's all about respect, my grandson is 11 today and has never needed to swear and shows maturity in everything he says and does, he told be on Saturday night that likling Garth Brooks was 'rather lame nan, you should like the Black Eyed Peas they're alot better' his school has taught children along side him that come from homes with dubious people that swear in the playground when picking the kids up, but their children have been taught at school that that behavior is letting the school down and they should ask their parents to show respect when they pick them up, it's actually working and hopefully the offspring of those losers will see the error in their parenst ways and grow up to be different.

[Old_Geezer]

PS children's TV does not help. The producers seem to think if the children are entertained then that's all they need to worry about. That they have no responsibility to show/encourage good behaviour, but to revel in encouraging the bad. And they are excused as "it never did me any harm I grew up ok", whist conveniently forgetting that it is their bad behaviour at the time that was the problem others had to endure.

[ummmm]

My kids have respect. I'm not keen on smacking but they know I will if they push it. They tend not to push it. They have never played me up in public and never answered me back in front of people.

[dothawkes31]

There are different levels of tolerence though, centuries ago, the lack of respect was measured in different values, and lack of respect could have been following a different career, religion or life style to the one your parents had wished/planned for you. In the 1800s, choosing to marry against your familt's wishes was showing a lack of respect, disobedience was showing independant thought, not being violent aggressive and abusive to your family and other people.

[Ankou]

"When I was at school there were teachers we were scared of and wouldn't dare get on the wrong side of, but these days kids disrespect/swear at teachers and get away with it"

no wonder when you get parents marching up to the school gates to duff up teachers who 'dissed' their cherub by telling them off, or taking the school to a a tribunal because chardonnay cannot wear earrings to school.

blame the adults, not the kids.

[ummmm]

You shouldn't need to smack a child for being cheeky.

[joeluke]

maybe not but it would teach them a lesson and they would think twice about doing it again

[joeluke]

Theres a general lack of discipline right across society

Parents are way too soft with their kids, teachers and police have no powers because their hands have been tied by the PC brigade

[ummmm]

Making him sit in his room should be enough.

My daughter went through a cheeky stage. I took all her make up and hair stuff off her. I just said that if she's not mature enough to speak to me in a reasonable manner then she's not mature enough to wear make up. That worked..!

[joeluke]

My father hit me (and also took his belt off to me) when I was a child, it never did me any harm and now as an adult I totally respect him

[ummmm]

How do you know it didn't do you any harm? You don't know what you would have been like had that not happened.

[joeluke]

Smacking your child ain't 'violence' it's discipline and teaches them right from wrong

[ummmm]

My Uncle hit my cousin so hard with a belt that he had 'Levi' imprinted on his leg.

[joggerjayne]

W ... !

Wot ... evaaaah !

[wendilla]

We were all out for family dinner yesterday and my son and grandson(12) were having a disagreement. I said to my Grandson if I had spoke to my parents like that I would have bounced from one end of the room to the other.I think the biggest problem is with parents that are separated. But not always.I never believed in smacking and neither does my childen . It worked better with depriving them of things. When my daughter takes away his DS it is like he has had his right hand cut off but it works.