Douglas, //If the greatest minds in history can't supply a satisfactory answer to your earnest questioning…//
I think you've got the wrong end of the stick. As I read it Nailit isn't asking for a deep, theological explanation, but one on a personal level. He is asking how people of religion, convinced that they are to be 'saved' are content with the notion that they will reside happily in heaven whilst their loved ones are burning in the other place very often for what most of us would consider normal human behaviour, his example being Aunty Ethel and Uncle Bob having once had a bonk before they were married. A very reasonable question that I don't believe has ever been satisfactorily answered here.