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We are planning to have a few neighbours round for festive drinkipoos, and we want to invite a nice couple but don't want them to bring their baby who's about a year old. Is there an acceptable way of phrasing that invite? Tin hat on waiting for abuse at us not wanting them to bring their baby....
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.//Out of interest (just to compare while we were in France)... how much effort did you make in trying to comfort the baby, nj?//
You are joking, of course. I was out for a meal with Mrs NJ. You're suggesting that the eight or ten people who were the party with the child should be allowed to get on with their meal untroubled whilst I make an effort to "comfort" their child. I don't think so. Apart from the fact that I was about five tables away I have no intention of child minding whilst I'm out for dinner. The child was just a few weeks old and I'm sure it would have gone down very well if some grumpy old git poked its nose into its carry-cot. Please don't be ridiculous.
//Here in Ireland children are included from day one and just grow up knowing how to behave in different situations......x //
Here in England thankfully they're not. And long may it stay that way. A child a few weeks old will learn nothing from being left to cry in a busy, noisy restaurant on a Saturday night.
//Just because I’ve given birth I have to spend years eating in McDonald’s!.... ;-) //
Yes. Either that or get a baby-sitter. There are some places and occasions which are simply not suitable for young children. It is not fair on them and it is better that they are restricted to places where they do fit in. Then, as they grow up, they can progress to places where adults fit in. Having children means making changes to your lifestyle and one of those changes is ensuring your children do not spoil other people's enjoyment.
You are joking, of course. I was out for a meal with Mrs NJ. You're suggesting that the eight or ten people who were the party with the child should be allowed to get on with their meal untroubled whilst I make an effort to "comfort" their child. I don't think so. Apart from the fact that I was about five tables away I have no intention of child minding whilst I'm out for dinner. The child was just a few weeks old and I'm sure it would have gone down very well if some grumpy old git poked its nose into its carry-cot. Please don't be ridiculous.
//Here in Ireland children are included from day one and just grow up knowing how to behave in different situations......x //
Here in England thankfully they're not. And long may it stay that way. A child a few weeks old will learn nothing from being left to cry in a busy, noisy restaurant on a Saturday night.
//Just because I’ve given birth I have to spend years eating in McDonald’s!.... ;-) //
Yes. Either that or get a baby-sitter. There are some places and occasions which are simply not suitable for young children. It is not fair on them and it is better that they are restricted to places where they do fit in. Then, as they grow up, they can progress to places where adults fit in. Having children means making changes to your lifestyle and one of those changes is ensuring your children do not spoil other people's enjoyment.
That is exactly what we did Rowan and how I was brought up too. Babies and young kids need to experience different faces, different locations and different routines too! Babysitters were rare and then it was only by close relations. But in this country children seem to be segregated. I too have travelled a lot in Europe and other continents where children are well behaved because from birth they are socialised and learn how to behave in different situations and as a result are more confident.
//Here in Ireland children are included from day one and just grow up knowing how to behave in different situations......x //
Lets not discuss how different countries do stuff because that just invites casual racism.
I can think of a few issues with certain kids who have irish blood. Doesn't mean all and the same though. yarda yarda.
Lets not discuss how different countries do stuff because that just invites casual racism.
I can think of a few issues with certain kids who have irish blood. Doesn't mean all and the same though. yarda yarda.
I remember when I was 17 and worked in an Inn in the evenings. One of the customer's husband had gone off with another woman when her baby was really young. She was distraught but still wanted a social life so she used to come to our pub and bring the baby with her. I can still remember her name. She used to put the baby to bed in one of our bedrooms and we all used to 'Coo' over her. I don't think the child came off any the worse.