My Mum Criticises My Clothes

[Treacle71]

I love charity clothes and I buy a lot from Vinted. I have my own style like that of the 60s era and generally folk/hippy clothes (large flowered clothes, puff sleeve dresses). She says I dress too young and how she preferred I dressed decades ago in classy NEXT clothes. I love corduroy pinafore dresses too. I tell her I don't want to dress like a fuddy duddy and to think Zandra Rhodes too and that's me! I just bought a vintage red, orange and yellow flowered dress too, but she's turned her nose up at it. How can I get her to accept who I am?

[bednobs]

You can't. 

[Cloverjo]

Exactly. Just ignore it. She doesn't have to like your clothes, and you don't have to like hers. 

Do you get on well in other respects?

[Treacle71]

Sometimes, Cloverjo. Sometimes not.

[davebro3]

I stopped listening to what my parents thought at about 10 years old.

(Come to think of I don't think they ever did tell me what they thought!)

[barry1010]

You can no more make her change your opinion than she can make you change yours

[maggiebee]

In 2022 you said you were 51 which makes you 54 now.  Why on earth would you be bothered with what your mum says? You're an adult, free to make your own choices.....go ahead and dress how it makes you happy.

[Hazlinny]

As long as you are happy in what you wear, it doesn't matter what your mother or anyone else thinks  ...  perhaps you could suggest she wears similar and also look younger ?

[pastafreak]

You sound like you wear clothes that make you feel happy. Be you, not what your mum expects or wants. And don't expect to change her mind.

[Treacle71]

Thank you so much everyone. I feel better already.

[William51]

 I would let her have her say and dress as you like. It might be difficult to bring her around to your viewpoint so humour her but keep doing as you do, she may come to see that she cannot influence you.

[Old_Geezer]

Who would you prefer to think poorly of your choice of clothes ?

[naomi24]

Dressing in 60s style doesn't sound young.  Your mum must be living in the past.  

[Rosie29]

I dont think you can expext her to accept how you are.

It is you who has to

accept how you are.  And it seems youre doing fine buying what makes you happy.     Enjoy you charity hunting   x

 

[DarceyK123]

It sounds like your Mum is critical of everything you do, she just wants to bring you down.  Don't change yourself to please her because you won't. If you dressed differently she wouldn't like that either.

My Mum was very similar, there was no pleasing her, she just loved to moan, I know what you're going through but you won't change her. Just do what's right for you.

[Treacle71]

Thank you so much everyone for your replies. I'll keep referring to your answers when I need a reminder  xx