I Think I Am In A Different Reality

[rowanwitch]

From my mother today
' I have only just realised I am your birth mother... "
W. t. F...
I always tried to treat you both alike....
W t f-ing f?
Who are you?

[tonyav]

Woooo, blimey. that's a good one, is she on any type of drugs ?

[calmck]

Have a strong nightcap, curl up in bed with a hottie and a book. Sleep well. Happy new year

[rowanwitch]

No but she has dementia... And getting stranger by the day

[tiggerblue10]

Whoa! Have you asked her what she's going on about?

[tonyav]

rowanwitchQuestion AuthorNo but she has dementia

Right I see, Rowan. Expect the unexpected then.

[Mamyalynne]

Go with the flow and nod a lot.

[rowanwitch]

At least she is not threatening to hit me, tonight at least. I have to laugh or I would be curled up in a corner ... Only another week to go before I can take her home...

[tonyav]

Thats the way to go, Mamya. Learned that technique with my late ( lovely ) aunt.

[tonyav]

Ah right, she's actually staying with you then, Rowan. Dunno why but I thought it must have a telephone convo.

[ferlew]

Some of the ones Mr F came out with were pretty odd too.
I had a boyfriend that lived in the lift in our bedroom. (The wardrobe)
The fire brigade were firing water jets at the bedroom window from the garden. (The blinds)
My boyfriend (imaginary I hasten to add) left his cycle in the kitchen.
(His wheelchair)
and on and on it went. I feel for you Rowan.

[rowanwitch]

She came on 19 th Dec my sister needed a break although she doesn't live with mum, just pops in every other day with shopping etc, and helps with cleaning and shopping. She has mum over for an afternoon a week. At least she has her husband to share the burden. I haven't slept properly since she arrived, and I spend my time making tea and switching lights off.

[naomi24]

Poor lady. Love her while you can, Rowan.

[ferlew]

There is no comparison with popping in daily, and being there 24/7 with no other support.
It's no use trying to explain anything, or put them right. Easier in the long run to agree, though it's very very hurtful at times.

[jourdain2]

She loved you. Ignore the ramblings. It's hard - but I've been without my mum for so long that I can say please enjoy her, odd or not, hard or not, whilst you can. Happy New Year.

[tonyav]

Your sister has had a decent break from it, Rowan. It was my cousin ( my aunts daughter ) and my self that dealt with my aunt, sometimes it was heart breaking but if we didn't do it who would.

[rowanwitch]

I find it so difficult as we have fought most of my adult life, I am now in my 60s and apparently I must forgive her for how she treated me in the past. I am all out of forgiveness and caring and all I can wish for her is what she has wished for herself all her life since my father died almost 62 years ago

[tonyav]

Under those conditions you have my sympathy, Rowan.

[Maydup]

You must be exhausted Rowan, and another week to go. I hope you manage some sleep tonight and a peaceful weekend. Take Care.

[Cloverjo]

It’s tough, I know.
My mum went a bit crazy. She didn’t have dementia, but cancer in her brain which had much the same result.
As others have said, go with it and nod a lot.
Best wishes.

[tonyav]

One of the things that my aunt would say to me when I walked into her house was ''hello Tony, has your dad ( her brother ) dropped you off'' my dad had been dead 27 years and I only lived around a quarter of a mile away from her and usually walked to her house, I would say something like ''Well you know what he's like, he's always got to be somewhere else thats why he hasn't come in''.