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Friend's Terrible Dilemma
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I really could not tell you re the above as it is so extremely personal but she has had the complaint for some time and "hormones" are involved - consultants etc seem to be baffled with her complaint and unfortunately last night I went onto internet cos sister read that some of her complaints matched hers when I read the information (please don't say that wrong information was read - the information is exactly as she has told me) and I was very very upset and was crying - I am still very upset today - can anybody tell me why I take on everybody's problems so bad. I am quite depressed for her cos I don't know whether she is going to get any better. Sorry for not releasing her personal problems so that some of you could help but just need help for me to try and be a bit philosophical or whatever.
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If she is ill she will do best by seeking medical advice and by you staying strong and helping her when she needs it which I'm sure you will.
Have you anyone you can share your concerns with in confidence. How good is your Parish priest? x
If she is ill she will do best by seeking medical advice and by you staying strong and helping her when she needs it which I'm sure you will.
Have you anyone you can share your concerns with in confidence. How good is your Parish priest? x
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Thanks for your input - she is seeking medical help and receiving injections etc but they are giving her side effects - it is so baffling particularly when she is 63 years old - no I could not talk about it to anyone - just my sister whom friend told aanyway - she was upset too last night - it is so unbelievable and completely unheard of by me anyway - Other friends are enquiring about her and all I say oh her hormones - I will just pray for her and me.
It's only natural to worry about those close to us, Conne.
My only advice, and it's not much, is to stop looking stuff up on the internet. It will only make you panic more, and cause you stress. AB is good when it comes to needing a little pick-me-up. Whether it's a laugh you need, or a moan, there's always someone around... although I'm not sure you'd get much sense after a certain hour! lol
Don't suffer in silence.
My only advice, and it's not much, is to stop looking stuff up on the internet. It will only make you panic more, and cause you stress. AB is good when it comes to needing a little pick-me-up. Whether it's a laugh you need, or a moan, there's always someone around... although I'm not sure you'd get much sense after a certain hour! lol
Don't suffer in silence.
Of the 13 answers you've had (at my time of typing this), 3 are yours, 1 is mine and the other 9 are supportive to you. Try and keep a sense of perspective and focus on the other answers if you do not like mine. You asked for philsophys and I gave mine to you. I would have answered the same in B&S if you had posted it there. This is my opinion which as you say I am entitled too.
I believe that there is something very wrong with a person who believes that they 'take on everybody's problems' to the extent that you, and many other people do. You getting upset about it will not change that. So as I said, focus on the answers that were more supportive or pleasing to you.
I believe that there is something very wrong with a person who believes that they 'take on everybody's problems' to the extent that you, and many other people do. You getting upset about it will not change that. So as I said, focus on the answers that were more supportive or pleasing to you.
Conne, you won't be a help to her if you are gibbering wreck in front of her or any friends/contacts that may be asking after her.
This is all about you caring and you need to rationalise your thoughts so that you can present a strong and considerate front and be a real friend to her.
So two things:
Perhaps sit down and quietly write down the major points and how you should respond, and include any questions that you may have - these may be about her condition or even the emotional side and then you can work out who best to approach (perhaps its here on AB that some of your answers will be).
The one fundamental, the key thing to your friend is to be there for her and there's an old adage for sales and counselling and that is "God gave you two ears and one mouth - use them in that ratio." Listen, listen and listen and don't formulate opinions or solutions too quickly - take your time and think (the "don't leap and jump").
Lastly, I agree, you may wish to come off CB and put your question on Body and Soul.....the Ed more closely watches and acts on those being inane over there, recognising that a little well-judged humour can be beneficial.
Good luck
This is all about you caring and you need to rationalise your thoughts so that you can present a strong and considerate front and be a real friend to her.
So two things:
Perhaps sit down and quietly write down the major points and how you should respond, and include any questions that you may have - these may be about her condition or even the emotional side and then you can work out who best to approach (perhaps its here on AB that some of your answers will be).
The one fundamental, the key thing to your friend is to be there for her and there's an old adage for sales and counselling and that is "God gave you two ears and one mouth - use them in that ratio." Listen, listen and listen and don't formulate opinions or solutions too quickly - take your time and think (the "don't leap and jump").
Lastly, I agree, you may wish to come off CB and put your question on Body and Soul.....the Ed more closely watches and acts on those being inane over there, recognising that a little well-judged humour can be beneficial.
Good luck
I understand. I used to have a huge big book, some kind of Health/Medical Encyclopedia. Every time a family member had a symptom or was ill, I'd be in the book, looking up all sorts of things and causing myself incredible worry.
I know you said you don't want to say what's wrong, but I think it would be really helpful to you.
There are lots and lots of really knowledgeable people on here, with various different life experiences, and they may be able to offer you comfort and advice from personal experience.
I know you said you don't want to say what's wrong, but I think it would be really helpful to you.
There are lots and lots of really knowledgeable people on here, with various different life experiences, and they may be able to offer you comfort and advice from personal experience.