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bikelover | 10:44 Wed 03rd Mar 2010 | ChatterBank
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hello all. need some help please.
ryt, me and my g.f are 17, been together nearly 10months, and we are in love, we both know it:). we love being with eachother, and hate being apart. at the start of us, my brother said something hurtful to my g.f, who has been bullied her whole life and didnt need it from my own family. so she said some things bak. then he said some things to me who stupidly i then told her. sine then my parents got involved because they rli are patheti at things like this and over react. some things were said on an internet domain the other week and now my parents are taking it wayyy to seriously. they seem to us like they dont want us to be together but we wont let that happen. my parents have stopped me from sleeping at hers now all i can do is see her in the evenings when she gets back from work. then im told to come home. this is stupid. i need to stay with her, i need to lay next to her and be with her at night and in the morning. but if i do that, they will ground me, and not let me out. im 17, im independant, let me live my life!!! who knows what i should do?
i know i probs havnt explained this very well so feel free to ask questions about it.
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Listen to your parents.
Reading the above just proves to me how immature you still are.............it may seem to you that you are in the middle of a great romantic drama but you aren't.
please try ordinary writing bikelover first, text speak doesn't go down well on here, this seems to be all about who said what and to who?
you have many years ahead of you to lay with someone all night !!!!
just try to go with what your parents are saying and see her in the evenings, things always have a habit of working out
Bobbi ♥
If you live with your parents then it's a case of it's their house their rules....
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im sorry but i cant just listen to my parents. people may think that i have to hoose parents over love but no, i cant do that i just cant. we feel to strongly about eachother to choose others over us. ill do anything for her but my prents are just to controlling.
and im not immature, i am actually very independant.
If you feel that strongly about each other then it should last this blip.
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bobbi, thats what i fort, but keeping us apart like that, even if it is just at night, is in a way tearing us apart because its like im choosing them over her. and to be honst, i feel to strongly, like never before to choose family over love
Is this your first real romance?
as jack has said , and she's right, you are showing much immaturity bike, parents are there to control !
What are your options?

What is your idea of independent?
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this blip? do u mean we will get through it?
oh yeah, btw, my parents rli are pathetic, they even said they would take her to court for the things she said. but they blummin said worse
If you love each other that much then Yes...you should get through it.
If you're that serious about her and "living your own life- yada, yada yada", move out, get a job, support yourself and stop sponging off tyour parents.

Until then, whilst they're are providing a roof over your head and feeding you, you have to live by their rules- like it or lump it i'm afraid.
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it is my first proper romane, its actually proper serious, but no1 sees that other than us. and my parents shouldnt control me, its not fair, we just wana be together.
can someone help decipher the text speak, I'm having a problem, in fact I might move out !
LOL
Bobbi ♥
Can the rest of you hear violins and waves crashing on the shore...................?
You say you're independent...how?

Not many people stay with their first romance.
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i suppose that does make sense Boo. me and my g.f are going to see someone tomorrow about getting a house with eachother, and i dont have a job ryt now, but i apply for loads each week, and i hardly get a reply, so obviously i cant work. i was told that if i gave my g.f parents 20quid a week, then i could move in, but i ant do that until i have the money, which means a job and i ant work until i actually get a reply:(
yep it's a cruel world out ther bike,you are 17?
old enought to fight for your country and soon old enough to vote too, are you in FT education?
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not many people may not stay with their first romance, but this feels like its forever, and im not guna think that its only a short term. we are crazy about eachother. this is just so hard, all we wana do is be together all time
If you are giving your parents only £20 a week then you are in an eniable position my friend, and you really should be grateful for any advice they give you!!
It would cost 100 times, and more, for you and your girlfriend to live together.

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