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Moving House
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We’ve had our house valued three times over the last ten or so years.
Our nearest family is 200 miles away, with three others about 250 miles away but in the opposite direction. The furthest is a plane journey away and unlikely to return to these shores.
We don’t hate where we live, we have a nice house and garden, we have good neighbours and a few friends but no one we’d miss if we never saw them again.
We’d love to move away but given there’s nowhere which cries out to us, we’re mid way between our closest family which is convenient, and also the cost of moving..it would be a one and only move..then we feel a bit stuck.
We go round in circles and always come back to staying put, probably should have moved about ten years ago when we first felt itchy feet.
Have you had an adventurous move later in life, or wished you had and regretted not doing it?
Some days I think oh stuff it, lets just go. Then other days I feel it could be the worst thing we ever do and be very unhappy but without the funds or energy to do anything about it.
Our nearest family is 200 miles away, with three others about 250 miles away but in the opposite direction. The furthest is a plane journey away and unlikely to return to these shores.
We don’t hate where we live, we have a nice house and garden, we have good neighbours and a few friends but no one we’d miss if we never saw them again.
We’d love to move away but given there’s nowhere which cries out to us, we’re mid way between our closest family which is convenient, and also the cost of moving..it would be a one and only move..then we feel a bit stuck.
We go round in circles and always come back to staying put, probably should have moved about ten years ago when we first felt itchy feet.
Have you had an adventurous move later in life, or wished you had and regretted not doing it?
Some days I think oh stuff it, lets just go. Then other days I feel it could be the worst thing we ever do and be very unhappy but without the funds or energy to do anything about it.
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LOL Vagus, a common problem not easily solved on a website. Twosome people there hose was where they had children, where they saw tie kids grow up, educated,suffered and surmounted the problems of teen ages and then finally left leaving a large void in your life but supported by the familiarity of the bricks and mortar that you called .HOME.
If that is the case then you have an emotional problem and sad does emotion,very badly.
I have never seen the home as an essential pillar of family society, not that we lived in sqalour you understand , but it was no big deal to upsticks and go and follow our instincts.
Yes some decisions were good and others,prthaps not sogood but never was the family a major factor.
If you are adventurous and chance takers then move,but if you consider yourselves to be more stable in your outlook,then follow you instincts.
If that is the case then you have an emotional problem and sad does emotion,very badly.
I have never seen the home as an essential pillar of family society, not that we lived in sqalour you understand , but it was no big deal to upsticks and go and follow our instincts.
Yes some decisions were good and others,prthaps not sogood but never was the family a major factor.
If you are adventurous and chance takers then move,but if you consider yourselves to be more stable in your outlook,then follow you instincts.
Vagus, two years ago Dave asked me why we were living in two UK houses when we could live together in one house in Ireland.
After a few minutes thinking I asked myself how I'd feel in ten years time if we stayed put. Would I regret it? Yes. One last adventure before I got too old.
We sold one UK house keeping one to go back to. We bought a house in the perfect place for us....in the middle of a field... with two holes in the roof... but close to five pubs.
We made the effort to involve ourselves in village life from day one and have made wonderful new friends.
It only took few weeks to decide this was bliss, no urge to go back to the UK, so we sold the second house.
Like you I had family up north and down south. They were happy with my decision and love to visit... though not this year, sadly.
I know our situations are slightly different. I knew where I was moving to... but put yourselves ten years on....how would you be feeling then?
Glad you stayed put or happy to have had a bit of an adventure?
I'm so glad we decided on a late in life adventure.... :-)
After a few minutes thinking I asked myself how I'd feel in ten years time if we stayed put. Would I regret it? Yes. One last adventure before I got too old.
We sold one UK house keeping one to go back to. We bought a house in the perfect place for us....in the middle of a field... with two holes in the roof... but close to five pubs.
We made the effort to involve ourselves in village life from day one and have made wonderful new friends.
It only took few weeks to decide this was bliss, no urge to go back to the UK, so we sold the second house.
Like you I had family up north and down south. They were happy with my decision and love to visit... though not this year, sadly.
I know our situations are slightly different. I knew where I was moving to... but put yourselves ten years on....how would you be feeling then?
Glad you stayed put or happy to have had a bit of an adventure?
I'm so glad we decided on a late in life adventure.... :-)
There is no particular reason, except we’re miles away from anyone who means anything to us, and we’re in an ordinary, fairly boring residential area.
We’re neither happy or not happy, maybe a bit discontented, maybe feel life could be a bit better. Our children all left home years ago so it’s not empty nest or anything, just a feeling of life could be better and slight boredom.
We’re both very cautious people, probably too cautious for our own good.
Jakep, North Norfolk is THE area we’ve seriously considered a number of times..lovely wide skies, coast, birding, relatively cheap housing.
Hmm, thanks for all your answers.
We’re neither happy or not happy, maybe a bit discontented, maybe feel life could be a bit better. Our children all left home years ago so it’s not empty nest or anything, just a feeling of life could be better and slight boredom.
We’re both very cautious people, probably too cautious for our own good.
Jakep, North Norfolk is THE area we’ve seriously considered a number of times..lovely wide skies, coast, birding, relatively cheap housing.
Hmm, thanks for all your answers.
This is what I'd do.
Make a list of what you'd really like in a new area, (sea view, rolling hills, small town, village location) and a list of undesirable elements ( rural, new build, lack of facilities)
etc, etc, etc.
Then keep looking at Rightmove and Zoopla until something comes up that you can't resist.
Make a list of what you'd really like in a new area, (sea view, rolling hills, small town, village location) and a list of undesirable elements ( rural, new build, lack of facilities)
etc, etc, etc.
Then keep looking at Rightmove and Zoopla until something comes up that you can't resist.
Bit of a gamble, whatever you do. When we decided to move from France back to UK in 2015 it was a massive change in lifestyle, not sure we've really recovered yet, and a huge undertaking. We'd been there 15 and 20 years respectively.
We only decided to move back because of family issues tipping the balance (Mr.J2's daughter died of cancer, amongst other things) and we didn't see family at all really - although we were open for visiting.
We like where we are living in our small Yorkshire Wolds village, which is 50 miles from my family (younger kids), but a long way from MrJ2's in London and Devon. Not sure it's worked, family-wise.
We had thought that being on the same island would help, but if you've been far away for a long time - they don't seem to want to make even a small effort. We've seen his son twice in 5 years - each time for a couple of hours. My lot ask us to dog-sit on holidays and will visit at Christmas, may see them once or twice a year in between. We are willing to go over to them but we are getting older.
If you are contented where you are, then I advise you to stay put. Don't know how old you are. We are 71 and 87 and MrJ2 now wants to go back to France! Not sure I can face that or summon up the energy. Perhaps if we rented, which is the norm over there, and let out our house - but the paperwork is complicated. Good luck! If you decide to jump - then jump and enjoy the ride! :)
We only decided to move back because of family issues tipping the balance (Mr.J2's daughter died of cancer, amongst other things) and we didn't see family at all really - although we were open for visiting.
We like where we are living in our small Yorkshire Wolds village, which is 50 miles from my family (younger kids), but a long way from MrJ2's in London and Devon. Not sure it's worked, family-wise.
We had thought that being on the same island would help, but if you've been far away for a long time - they don't seem to want to make even a small effort. We've seen his son twice in 5 years - each time for a couple of hours. My lot ask us to dog-sit on holidays and will visit at Christmas, may see them once or twice a year in between. We are willing to go over to them but we are getting older.
If you are contented where you are, then I advise you to stay put. Don't know how old you are. We are 71 and 87 and MrJ2 now wants to go back to France! Not sure I can face that or summon up the energy. Perhaps if we rented, which is the norm over there, and let out our house - but the paperwork is complicated. Good luck! If you decide to jump - then jump and enjoy the ride! :)
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