Consequences

[Maypole]

I am considering smashing up my soon to be ex husband's 3 week old brand new Porsche in an attempt to convince him that (a) I wont be paying for half of it, (b) Id like some child and spousal maintenance as he hasnt paid any in the 18 months we've been separated, and (c) Id like at least some of my capital before he spends it all.

I thought Id wait till he was out of it on Christmas Day when he comes to play Mr Bountiful, and then use a baseball bat on the glass and paint stripper on the body.

I was wondering what offence this would be and that consequences might be as I cannot risk a custodial sentence. Your constructive expertise will be most welcome.

[Rollo]

I suggest some anger management. Causing criminal damage like that won't help you at all.

[ummmm]

Go for it :-)

[Maypole]

Rollo Im not the source of the problem so me managing my anger wont actually progress things........and actually it will help me - IMO

[Rollo]

Then go fot it. It might make you feel better, until you get into court that is!

[sara3]

so when the police knock on your door on Christmas day, and arrest you for criminal damage, in front of your children... will it still be worth it?

maybe you should put your kids before your revenge.

[puddicat]

rollo you havent a scoobie to how she feels.so maypole possibly criminal damage,so hey ho go with the flo!!!

[puddicat]

sara i dont think they will battering down the house to get to maypole, unless she murders him!!!

[Rollo]

It does not matter how she feels. What she is suggesting doing is stupid and will cause more grief.

[cazzz1975]

he will know he has got to you if you resort to ruining his car, the best revenge is by getting on with your life successfully without him.

[sara3]

cazzz has got it spot on.

[ummmm]

How can someone move on when the ex won't even help pay for the kids....

Smash the car to 18 months worth of maintenance.

[Maypole]

Cazzz thats a really constructive answer when he has all the money, wont pay maintenance, isnt interested in any childcare and ignores my solicitor.

I shall be chuffed to bits glorying in my successful life in a job that pays a quarter what I used to earn because I cant travel, compromised by school runs, children off sick and school holidays. Yeah go me!!!!!

[naomi24]

How can it possibly help you? The only reward you'll get is a fleeting moment of satisfaction. Apart from that, you'll just be creating major problems for yourself - and goodness knows what traumas for your children. The only advice I can give is don't do it. It's a crazy notion.

[cazzz1975]

it can be done ummm, resorting to criminal activities will only make him look like the better person. kids have been raised without maintenance for years, its not good I agree but you shouldnt drop to the level of commiting offences and risking your childs custody for the sake of getting even.

[cazzz1975]

okay so you wreck his car, get into trouble for it and then what?

he buys a new car...gets a new gf...flashes his new stuff at you again knowing it p!sses you off..

do you wreck every car he buys? ruin everything, where will it end? when you are convicted and you risk losing your kids?

[puddicat]

have any of the abers been through what maypole has gone through??,will not condone what she is thinking,because i felt like she does,maypole i did some stupid things but you dont think rationally or to order when you feel like you do,and you feel like everything is going his way,do understand your frustration!!!

[sara3]

we've all had sh*t to deal with, but I chose to keep my dignity and not get a criminal record. it kind of screws up your future.

[puddicat]

sara didnt get a criminal record did silly things not major damage,have some sense!!!

[tiggerblue10]

Try the CSA form child maintenance and when divorced you should get half of what he has.

[Rosetta]

Plus, I would guess he could be the vindictive type who would report you to the Police without a qualm. Its not worth it, you would only be escalating the problems.
You need to get on with him in a civilised manner for the sake of the kids, how would smashing up his car make the relationship between you any better.