Christmas

[homerbart]

Does anybody hate Christmas. I never liked it from when I was young and I loathe buying presents for people who dont appreciate them when I know there are starving people all over the world. Also nobody says thanks any more cos they have everything themselves. No meaning to anything. Also loathe putting decorations up as untangling lights makes me look for a valium - anybody out there like me.

[Ice.Maiden]

How sad! I think Christmas is lovely. It's an excuse to give presents to the people you care about, and to see the childrens' faces on Christmas morning. It's true that a vulgar amount of money is spent during this time, but since I give to charities anyway, then no, I don't think about all the starving people in the world, any more than I would at any other time. By the way - all our family say thank you for what they're given, and mean it. I think "Christmas Carol" springs to mind when I hear people moaning about the Festive Season.

[SizzleSquid]

my nan recently died, my brother threw me against a wall the morning after, my brother and his girlfriend live with me in my dads house but we dont speak, im ill, my relationship has been on the rocks, ive been depressed, ive woken up with a sore throat n cold, and i dont like my new job. Christmas?
Baa humbug. (tho i wish it wasnt like this)

[homerbart]

Christmas Carol would spring to mind but believe me I really splash out at Christmas time definitely not a Scrooge at any time of the year but I still reiterate that the real meaning of Christmas is being forgotten by people ie the birth of Christ.

[eyeshade]

There are plenty of things you could do, like volunteer work, although you don't like Christmas, I am sure that if you did something like this it would make you feel good about it all over again and you would probably meet some very good people. There are plenty of websites relating to this, such as the salvation army etc. Sizzle it would do you good to get out and do something different.

[sleepyj]

xmas only comes once a year make the most of it .you dont need to spends tons of money just do some thing nice for yourself and others .i love it

[Le Chat]

Christmas can be a great, fun and resting time if all is well in your life. If things are even slightly off centre, it can be a miserable, cold and lonely time.
My Mum's dad died on Xmas Eve, when she was 10yrs old (she's now 73!) and his body was kept in the house all over Xmas and New Year, as in 'those days' the funeral parlour was closed for holiday! Every year when we were young, she'd be upset, drink too much and get maudling and I truly hated Xmas, as to me it represented walking on eggshells and being tense.
I have had to fight against the residual feelings of all this and I actually am looking forward to this year probably for the first time! I am 43!
Homerbart - you are not alone.

[aims1202]

I think the real meaning of christmas for us is having a really lovely day with your family all together, playing games and having fun, and all being extra nice to each other! Giving presents to the people you love, and my family do say thank you and do really appreciate them. We dont buy loads, and i put a lot of thought into what i get them. I often buy things secondhand or from oxfam and oxfam unwrapped. One of the best things also is watching my boy in his nativity play at school.
I understand that for some christmas is a lonely time and it must be hard when you are being told to be happy and youre not. I feel very lucky to have such a close and lovely family to share mine with.
Lots of love to all of you for whom christmas is not such a happy time x

[homerbart]

this is for Le Chat - you are right - my mum's very very favourite sister died on Christmas Eve too and my mum got depressed every year after that and added to that went on the drink so I dreaded it every year and think nothing of it now. Now my fantastic mum is dead too as is my father - I now only celebrate it with my only sister who lost her only child/son 3 years ago through a drowning in Thailand. That is why I am so morbid I guess. Also I lost my other nephew who was shot dead at 15 - then his mum died 2 years later leaving my brother with 4 other sons to rear. Sorry for being so sad.

[Le Chat]

I am so stunned that such a lot of terrible things can happen in one lifetime. I would imagine that under the same circumstances, I would hate every day (for a long time anyway) and not just Christmas! My heart goes out to you it really does and to your sister at this time. Losing a child must be so hard.
I will purposefully think of you both on Xmas day.

[aims1202]

That is just so sad, i am really sorry that so many terrible things have happened to you. I also will be thinking of you this christmas, as well as my close friend who's mum died suddenly on Xmas Eve 9 years ago.

[homerbart]

thanks all for your kind words but what I didnt tell you that there was much more in that I was shot myself and am left with pain in my left leg - also suffered from 2 very big car crashes but I was very lucky in that I only suffered physical hurts.

My brother one of a twin died last year and his other sibling is breaking is heart - I know it wont be long before he is gone.

Again thanks for taking the time to write sympathetic words. bye for now

[Bohne]

Christmas is what you make of it...

Why do you put up lights, if you don't like it?
Why do you buy presents for people you have not desire to buy for?
Why don't you give to charity instead, if that might make you happier?

Christmas doew not have to be stress and anger.
Christmas is what you want it to be!

[Compostella]

Oh for f**ks sake!

Is this real?

[homerbart]

to compostella - - is what for real - what do you mean.

[Compostella]

All this sob story and doom & gloom stuff

Lighten up, its Christmas!

Okay maybe its not for you but don't moan about it, some people actually enjoy it.

For what its worth.......Merry Christmas

[beejaybee]

i also hate christmas. i`m not religious therefore the triue meaning of it means nothing to me.

[tufty7]

Bah humbug, There are no rules saying you have to celebrate Christmas or participate , Christmas is certainly mostly enjoyed by families with children , unfortunately they get robbed for cash in exchange for the latest thing on the telly with the use of pester power , As parents we are used to being robbed like we are in the school holidays so nothing new there then ....... Its really up to you , even if you decide not to participate it does not mean you can't gain a little happiness from watching others enjoy the festive period........ enjoy whatever you do , make the most of what you enjoy , we pass this way once ......