Should I Tell My Friends Sister What He Told Me?

[Cindy1302]

There is this autistic guy I know. He always wanted to hangout with me. I felt bad for him so I let him. Well we were chatting on Facebook at one point, and I don't know how it came up, but he told me that the youngest girl he dated was 11. He said that when he was 19. Idk if he meant he dated an 11 year old girl when he was around 11 or when he was 19. This was in 2013 when he told me this. I tried to explain to him that it was wrong but he just wasn't having it. I'm worried because he goes and stays at his sisters every weekend I think and she has two daughters. One I think is 11 and the other is 2. I talked to him about it recently and he admitted that he knows it was wrong. I told his mom anyways who is his legal guardian. She said she wish I would have told her back then but she was glad I told her. Well, I barely know his sister. She works at Walmart and I say hello when I see her, and I think we were friends on Facebook at one point. Well, several months ago I found her on Facebook and sent her a message about my concerns. She never responded. Idk if she even read it. I was gonna catch her at her job and talk to her about it, but my mom told me not to do that, but I feel I should do something. I doubt he'd actually try anything with her daughters, but I feel It might be the right thing to tell people.

[wolf63]

You asked this question a long time ago.

You have to learn not to overthink every bit of your life.

This guy did nothing, there is nothing to tell, unless you want to start a rumour about him that isn't true.  You could ruin his life.

You can't keep thinking this way, it will make you ill. 

You can't change what others do or say, what you consider to be a wrong action or statement may be the right thing and it may be how you see the world that is wrong.

[wolf63]

Here is what we said previously...

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Question1847212.html#gsc.tab=0

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Question1875697.html#gsc.tab=0

 

 

[Cindy1302]

Not trying to be rude, but did you even read my post? Two completely different people. 

[Cindy1302]

My bad, didn't know there were two links. Yes it's the same guy, but he is now staying in the same house as the children. 

[wolf63]

Leave it be.

You have mentioned it to the family.  

Unless you know for certain a crime has been committed, like you maybe see a physical assault or bank robbery, you have no obligation to report people.

Nearly all honest people (good citizens) go through life without feeling the need to report anyone.

Just relax and try and accept minor faults in others.  Like you mum potentially defrauding her employer.  The normal reaction to it would be to hope they don't get caught and that it was accidental with no criminal intent.

It is 04:09 here in Scotland so I am off to bed.  I hope you have a happy Easter weekend.

 

[scorpiojo]

She did respond over 14 months ago..

 

//Well, I message his sister over Facebook who I hardly know. I told her what he said. She said thank you for telling her, and then she asked how long ago he told me. //

[scorpiojo]

..and you've asked this at least 6 times.