Without wishing to throw petrol onto a smouldering fire............
I would say the following;
I'm sure the Mums amongst us can remember 'the early days', and possibly without a great deal of fondness.........
The hormones take a while to stabilise and are complemented by the panic of new, sudden and eternal responsibility.
I am absolutely sure that I was, possibly, not an ickle fluffy bunny-wunny wafting about in a Laura Ashley dress..........
And anyone with an ounce of sensitivity ought to back away with good grace when confronted with a new mother who is perhaps not seeing things from the same point of view as the speaker.
Who is 'right' and who is 'wrong' is a moot point in such a circumstance.
I wish all the Velvets well............