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kdawg | 01:15 Sun 28th Dec 2008 | Relationships & Dating
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I think i should know better but i guess i'm into deep to be objective. My previous relationshp lasted 5 years. We broke well because i felt we did not want the same things. She was 6 years my junior. A year on and I met a wonderful girl in the USA. Initially i was thinking 'shes way too young for me' but having hung out for two weeks solid thought ' perhaps not?' I've moved back to the UK. She is thinking of coming to live with me. I feel quite guilty about the age and to the point i am supressing the truth from friends. I love her but am so cofused. I am 32 , she is 22. I talked to her about kids and marriage as thats what i want in the next few years. She is ok with that. Am i being selfishly unfair to us both or should i just detach my brain from my heart for the chance of being with someone that makes me happy?

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am I missing something? I can't actually see what the problem is.. you're hardly old enough to be her father!
she's not too young, you're not too old, but you are half a generation apart so you won't have quite the same life experiences - but since you come from different continents, that would be the case anyway. It probably means you'll have to work harder at the relationship than two people who grew up next door to each other, but hard work never hurt anyone. Go for it. If it doesn't work out it doesn't; but at least you'll have tried and won't be left wondering 'If only...'
I see no problem whatsoever..she's not too young,and you are not too old. If you are both adults,and have some idea of what you want from life....as individuals,and together.......then just have a happy life. Age shouldn't come into it. I know it is not as simple as that...but it should be
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The one thing I do think you should be careful about ,is moving in together too soon. It sounds as if you have not known each other too long...so I WOULD take that part of your relationship slowly.
youre not too old pasta

and i'm starvin marvin lol
ahhhhh...my favourite AB stalker..lol
ya ok, ziggy???
Does age really matter, within reason?
I am almost 6 years younger than my 1st husband, now divorced but lasted 20 odd years.
I am 10 years younger than my current (and last) husband and couldn't be happier.
I think the problem with no 1 was not the difference in ages but that when we met I was 13, still a child, and he was an adult (although I didn't see it like that at the time). I grew up; he stayed the same.
In your case kdawg, you are both adults. As long as beneath the sexual attraction you are each others best friend you have the makings of a good relationship.
10 years older for a man is a relatively small age gap. I don't see the problem.
i dont see a problem with the age gap at all but what i would kinda see the problem with is that after only spending two weeks together you have discussed the future kids etc , just seems to be adding a bit of pressure that neednt be there.
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we initally spent 2 weeks together having met. since then we've spent a further 3 weeks together and since meeting september we are in touch on a daily basis, for severa hours. i brought up the topic because i informed her if this is to be a relationship that is going somewhere she should be aware of what i want in life. thanks for all you answers people. have put my mind at rest sort of, the rest is down to my reluctacncy to just let go, but i'm willing to try. thank you.
Go for it,it may last forever it may not but that goes for any age gaps.And as for not telling your friends which would they prefer a newer car or an older car with baggage.Enjoy it ,you may not have another chance if you think so moch of her and good luck you lucky buugar!
baggage??
10 years is'nt a large gap, is she quite immature?
There is a similar question above this......seems to be on a lot of folks minds today.
Yes sarah 3 excess baggage(some other blokes kids)
a) sarah?
b) some people like someone who is a grown up, rather than the "phwoar, let's get a Barbie doll" approach.

sorry kdawg, I'm not suggesting you!
and c) some people consider children to be people, and not "baggage".
Sara 3 but some like the new car
No bloke wants somebody elses little people
That'll put him in his place...well put sara
I thought 'baggage' was emotional....which we all have-like it or not.
oh, you mean the ones that want to add little neon lights?

gotcha!

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