Is anyone up that can help me

[Roughquest]

In need of some urgent help and advice....please.

[mistys]

What do you need help with??

[Roughquest]

My b/f has threatened me and I have left and am currently sleeping in my office as no where else to go, he has jealousy paranoia issues and I dont know where to go or what to do next.

[mistys]

If it really that serious then call the police!!
You have no other option really, can you not go to a friends house??

[sense4all]

Look up the number for a womans refuge in your area .. if not avaliable in phone book, call police station on non emergency number and ask if they have it. Even if you don't want to go there tonight, talk to someone. Is your office secure?

[Roughquest]

he is making me go mental, he has been verbally bashing me for weeks now...and i cant take anymore.

[sense4all]

Found a number hun - are you there?

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/landing_page.asp?s ection=000100010008&itemTitle=If+you+or+a+frie nd+need+help

[mistys]

Ring the womens aid number.

And please dont go back to this man!!

Are you feeling bettter yet??

[sense4all]

Easy to say and hard to do if it was me I would cut and run. My friend was a high powered woman who was eroded by someone like this for twenty years he wrecked her life and as for the kids ... it did not get better and he used every trick in the book to isolate her ... being an ar$e etc. He hated me 'cos I would not leave my friend when I copped on to his game. Even now his shadow is loitering ( they have kids to deal with.) Get out and stay out!

[Roughquest]

He has and is trying to turn me against my friends, he makes me feel guilty for having a life outside of him, he hates my friends, hates me socialising, hates the way i dress, hates the way I am, he often accuses me of lieing to him for no reason, he hates me going out, hates me being independent....i have had enough now, he frequently says he talks about my 'bahaviour' with his family and often tells me they hate the way i treat him....he lies to me and makes stories up about how bad i am to him.

[sense4all]

I am off to the supermarket ( don't ask ) please leave update. I am thinking of you and will have a wee peep later to see if you got any decent advice from w. aid or Police DV unit. Lots of love and a big cuddle sweetheart - you hold on tight, the first step is the hardest.

[Chattabonk]

Roughquest, is this the bf, the ambulence driver, or the paramedic, ffs you had so many!!!So is this one checkin your text or emails?
make your mind up DOG

[Roughquest]

This is the new recent bf - NOT the paramedic, this is not a joke and not a situation to make a joke of thanks....this is serious,

[Roughquest]

he does not and never has trusted me, he hates me using my mobile, and the internet and frequently abuses me...on a daily basis, telling me what i can and cant do, who i can and cant talk to, where and where i cant go to....

[sense4all]

OK the plan is to get you away from others and their opinions. Then the only person who sees you is him , thats your new 'normal' and before you know where you are the real nastiness starts when they think you have no where to turn this is a classic manoveur ( sp ) You might be too frightened and ashamed to seek help later ... he is banking on this. Every thing you do will never be enough you will be tired and start going out of your way to avoid traps and potential pitfalls if this has already happened. Run like the wind ... it's a sort of grooming process. If you really love me ... XYZ ... etc etc. Save yourself - get out now. Be back in an hour or so ... GTG.

[scatty mare]

Are you ok? Please don't refer to him as a 'boyfriend', he's a manipulative, controlling b******. Get as far away from him as fast as you can and don't look back. He'll no doubt beg forgiveness at some point, but it's unlikely he'll ever change. You deserve better.

[sense4all]

How are you? get any good advice on where to go next?

[~Wingnut~]

Hi Roughquest.

Are you ok? Just come online and seen your post.
I really think you should go to the police, he has threatened you and that is very serious.

Take care and if you can let us know your ok xxx

[alinic]

Just read your cry for help, hope everthing is okay and thinking about your wellbeing.
Take care

[cambus]

For your own safety, I think you should get as far away from him as possible, Russia springs to mind.