what to do??

[chic21998]

Im seeing this guy from my wrk for about a month now, usually stay @ his at the weekend & see each other once or twice during the week.

At first I was very clear that I wanted it to be super casual with no soppyness ect... He's bn very good at that.

However Ive now changed my mind, I've decided that I like him and would like us to be more official ie. boyf/girlf, talk on the phone & be faithful (that has never bn discussed) But I dont want to scare him off

Is it too soon to have that conversation?

[oldfashioned]

Never too soon to bare your soul and shake life by the throat. Go for it.

[efc]

If thats how you feel then tell him. Women are renowned for changing their minds! lol
By the way I am female so i'm not having a dig!

[Panic Button]

My God.

efc is a woman!

[efc]

Panic Button - did you not know?? well obviously not! What made you think I was male lol

[Panic Button]

I thought you were a skinhead from Goodison Park!

[efc]

Sorry to disappoint you but i'm a female from Essex LOL!

[chic21998]

Thanks guys (& gals!)

Im normally really good @ taking the bull by the horns & going for it but I think this time Im kinda scared at what his response will be (ie. no thanks and run a mile)

Im going to have to weigh up the options-continue and possibly end up falling for him or he doesnt feel the same just end it now where its not gone too far-we'll see!!

[lugus]

Tell him. At least then you'll know one way or another. And do it quickly before these two have to get a room.

[Sasha13]

AAARRGGGHHH!!!!! Sorry, I'm going to have to disagree with all the advice given so far. (Except the bit about efc being a lady!)

I find that if you have the whole 'is this a relationship' conversation with a guy, it makes them run a mile. In your situation I think you're well within your rights to ask if the relationship is exclusive (i.e. if he's planning to sleep with anyone else) but I'd hold off on the whole 'are you my boyfriend bit' - if the relationship is exclusive and he's seeing you as much as he is, I'd let anything else develop naturally - just start making comments along the lines of ' I really enjoy spending time with you' or similar - i.e. gradually getting soppy and he'll soon get the idea!

Let us know what happens!!